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Happy Place

Feel walked over? Mel Robbins on turning pain into personal power

Happy Place

Fearne Cotton

Society & Culture, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Relationships, Personal Journals

4.615.2K Ratings

🗓️ 10 June 2025

⏱️ 71 minutes

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Summary

Do you feel deep injustice at how others treat you? Mel Robbins is an award-winning podcast host and best-selling author; she says if other people want to behave in a shitty way... let them!


In this chat with Fearne, Mel explains the difference between saying “let them”, and letting people walk all over you. She talks about how “let them” doesn’t make your problems disappear, but you’ll see them differently so they’re less distressing to you. The phrase will also make you feel more confident in your authentic self-expression.


Feeling victimised? Stop hoping you can change a bully’s behaviour. Mel also explains how to use the phrase “let me”. Let me recognise what I can change about the situation or change about how I respond. Remember you have the power to leave any dinner table or any message exchange at any point.


Plus, why you should listen to your jealousy; it’s telling you a lot about your desires and ambitions...


Mel’s best-selling book, The Let Them Theory, is out now.


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0:00.0

Hello, I'm Fern Cotton and this is Happy Place, the show that makes sure you feel in control of your own life.

0:08.2

Today I'm chatting to Mel Robbins.

0:10.7

How do I stop focusing on other people and what they think, what they feel, what they do, and let them, let them have their opinions, let them think what they want to

0:21.3

think, let them do what they're going to do, let them be disappointed, let them misunderstand me,

0:24.9

let them, let them, let them. And then let's take the power back and constantly cue ourselves,

0:31.3

let me remind myself that there's one person whose happiness I'm in charge of, it's mine.

0:38.8

Oh my God, do you know how excited I've been about this episode? I woke up today in the best bloody mood knowing I was going to

0:44.7

see Mel in real life. We've had quite an interesting little friendship, a very modern friendship.

0:50.1

We met first on Zoom and we swapped numbers and we've been texting here and there and

0:55.3

DMing over the years and I love following what she's doing on Instagram and listen to her

1:00.1

podcast too.

1:01.6

And just the thought of seeing her in real life and it did not disappoint.

1:05.3

She bounded into the studio wearing the most exceptional, I'm going to call them, clogs I've

1:10.4

ever seen, these sorts of amazing

1:12.6

platform clogs. And she's given me the website, I'm obviously going to copy and buy them immediately.

1:17.7

And we just got stuck into this bloody great chat. And I love her even more than I already did.

1:24.2

How is that humanly possible? So let's talk about Mel, what a legend she is.

1:30.4

I definitely feel like I've referenced her a lot in previous Happy Place episodes, many things that

1:34.5

she said the first time we spoke resonated and I've applied it to many parts of my life.

1:40.7

And actually, I've mentioned her more recently because of her let them mantra, which has really

1:46.5

struck a chord with me. Mel is one of the most sought after experts in mindset, behaviour

1:52.1

change and life improvement. Her new book is called The Let Them Theory. This book and the chat we're

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