Fan Mail Friday #62 | Red Flag Dads and Fowl Obstructions

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🗓️ 13 May 2016

⏱️ 21 minutes

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Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: If men are the gas and women are the brakes (per guest Emily Nagoski in The Art of Charm podcast episode 414), how does this apply in a marriage that fizzles out in the sex department? Are you a better teacher than a performer of a certain skill? What does it say about you when your students constantly surpass your level of expertise? A veteran weighs in to help a fellow brother-in-arms readjust to civilian work life as addressed in Fan Mail Friday #61. [For further reference, here's a link to the Treble Victor Group for ex-servicemen and women who find themselves in the same boat.] Sure, it's a red flag when the father of your significant other calls out of the blue to impugn their character -- but is this really a warning about your partner or just the sanity of a potential future in-law? The only kind of cockblocker you want in your life is the one who keeps you safe from undead chickens during the zombie poultry apocalypse. But what if it's your best friend who may or may not be in love with you? In a recent video we talked about the concept of using emotional filters to our advantage. Now we're going to use them as a persuasion tool in this week's video: How to Change Someone's Mood Deliberately. Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-62-red-flag-dads-and-fowl-obstructions/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

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0:00.0	Time for fan mail Friday. I'm your host Jordan Harbinger and I'm here with producer Jason
0:04.8	DeFilippo. We'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you
0:08.9	kick the weekend off, right? If you're new to the Art of Charm podcast, this isn't a great place
0:13.5	to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer formats to check out the best of
0:18.8	at the Art of Charm.com slash best or the fundamentals toolbox at the Art of Charm.com slash toolbox.
0:24.6	That's where we've got fundamentals of body language, negotiation, attraction,
0:28.8	nonverbal communication, networking, and everything else we teach here at the Art of Charm.
0:33.2	We'll send you all that to your inbox if you text Charm that's CHARMED-233444.
0:40.0	All right, here we go. Dear Jordan, I just got done listening to fan mail Friday number 53,
0:45.1	not crazy for Kinky. And I had a question about the advice you gave the guy who had trouble with
0:49.5	an overly Kinky girlfriend. Actually, my question is more concerned with the concept you expressed
0:54.8	in the advice rather than the specific advice itself. You stated, as a man, I would advise in
1:00.2	general you take on a more dominant role in all aspects of sexual activity unless, of course,
1:05.9	that's the fetish, right? And at the Art of Charm, one of the things we teach is that men are the
1:10.6	gas and women are the brakes, typically and generally when it comes to physical escalation.
1:15.7	It's not a hard and fast rule. This idea of the men are the gas and women are the brakes got me
1:20.5	thinking a lot. It also reminded me of your previous podcast with Emily Nagoski where she used the
1:25.4	same metaphor. I wanted to ask if you could elaborate on this point when it comes to sexual activity
1:30.1	inside of a marriage. Here's my situation, which I think is applicable to many out there listening
1:35.0	and which I wonder if the advice applies. My wife of two years, and we're both in our 30s,
1:40.5	does not like to have sex anymore. She's willing to have sex if I directly or insinuate with
1:45.6	physical contact, but it has basically become a chore to her. She is unwilling to initiate any
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