Time for fan mail Friday where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.

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All right, let's cut to it. Brian writes, I'm super sociable. I was in a fraternity in college and I really learned how to network with people professionally.

I enjoy talking to new people and meeting new people. I recently moved to Columbia, South Carolina from Houston, Texas.

The demographics are completely different. I'm a black guy who has always flowed well in quote unquote standard America.

But here in South Carolina, I'm having trouble relating to girls. I've always dated interracially, but this town doesn't seem to be as open to it as Texas.

The girls I'm running into are typically collegiate and I'm far beyond that in my mindset.

I'm 25 and the idea of talking about getting drunk in trashy college bars is definitely not my scene.

Unfortunately, that's all that seems to be available here. My question here is, how do I approach women who are clearly out of my league and just want to really make friends out here?

I've listened to the podcast regarding making friends in a new city. I think it was really helpful, but overcoming these racial biases that exist in a place like South Carolina

is still fairly difficult to overcome. Do you have any input?

I do have input. Brian, thank you very much. First of all, I looked at Brian's email signature and it works for a consulting company has good job.

And you know, you mentioned you've dated interracially before. So it's not something that's impossible in your mindset.

However, you did throw out a little bit of a red flag. How do I approach women that are clearly out of my league?

Not sure that's a good mindset to have. You should be a lot more confident, especially if you think someone's out of your league and their drunk trashy college girls talking about getting drunk.

That's not where you should see your league and you definitely shouldn't be putting yourself below them. So maybe I misread that.

But either way, you got to kind of get your mind right on that one. And I would refer you to some of the toolbox and confidence episodes that we talk about there.

You need to go where the right people are more importantly, if you're going to college bars, you're going to meet college girls. You're going to dive bars with young racists or whatever.

You're going to you're going to meet the wrong kind of people. You need to be going to professional events and cultural stuff. So what I would say for you here on this and by way of advice is find, make a list of three to five things you want to learn or do.

Like you're maybe you're really into cooking or you want to learn how to cook or you want to learn how to play a certain kind of sport or you already play a certain kind of sport.

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