All right, time for FanMail Friday. We're going to answer some of your questions and drop some knowledge, give you some feedback and reply to your feedback so we can kick the weekend off right.

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Or the fundamentals toolbox at theartofcharm.com slash toolbox. That's where we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, etc.

And everything else we teach here at the art of charm. So let's cut to it. All right, this one comes from Bob. That's not his real name. That's my uncle's name.

First time email, long time listener, I wanted to reach out about something I've noticed in many of your shows. It's been bothering me for a while now.

While speaking to the audience about detaching themselves from previous social circles that are not conducive to success, you often combine college frat guy persona with that of someone who drinks too much and isn't looking for self improvement.

I understand the reason why you do this. It does prove the point that you're trying to make. However, I find it a bit disrespectful to put such a generalizing label on people affiliated with Greek life.

The company I currently work for was founded by an alumni of my chapter. Many of my friends have found their current jobs and business partners through the fraternity system.

I know you've probably seen the stats, but people with Greek backgrounds tend to do very well in politics, business, and entrepreneurial ventures.

As an undergrad, I learned not only how to manage a budget of over 50 grand a year, but also how to deal with over 100 members of conflicting personalities and lead them towards common goals.

Fraternity prepared me and gave me skills I could not have acquired at my age and at that point in my life anywhere else.

I love your show. I've been listening for over a year. I have multiple brothers, a frat brothers I assume, who also enjoy your show.

In fact, it is one of the best podcasts we recommend during our quarterly newsletters to alumni and active members. The frat guy comments sound very out of place and ignorant in your otherwise great show.

People of Greek affiliation, whether sorority girls or fraternity guys are a lot more than just alcoholics. I think having an episode on the benefits of going Greek or joining another large networking club while still on undergrad could help you and your career moving forward would be a good idea.

There are a lot of qualified and successful individuals with Greek ties. Sorry for the long emails been bugging me for a while now. I know you must have a lot of listeners who are also Greek and I'm sure they don't appreciate it either.

Keep up the good work aside from the frat guy thing. I love the show. I actually think this is a really good point. I'm basically going on something that I got from frat guys when I was in college, which was like kind of the stereotypical d-bag guy, but I'm blatantly ignoring all my friends, even from college,

who were in frat who were totally fine. So essentially, I'm kind of Hollywoodizing the whole thing, whereas really a frat is a great idea as long as they encourage you to do things that are good for you like networking and development things I haven't thought about because I was never in a frat when I when I was in college.

In fact, if I had to do it over again, I would totally join a frat in college. I would join the board of that and learn probably a lot more than I did in any of my classes. I don't Jason, you don't seem like the frat type or unifrat.

I was definitely not in a frat. I went to community college. I didn't graduate, but I have had a lot of friends who come from fraternities and it has actually helped them in business and in social life.

So in other words, I should stop saying some f and frat guy and be like some f and guy who probably wouldn't get into your frat because they're very personal development oriented.

And then I would just can keep the same frat guy voice, even though it's no longer the frat guy voice. I don't know. I'm going to have to think of another name for it. So Bob, you're in charge of figuring out what that persona is because it's no longer the frat guy thing. It's true. He's right.

It's totally not the case probably most frats. The guys grow up and they stay friends and there's a lot of benefits from it. And the reason they get a bad rap is because everyone's an idiot when you're 18 bar none.

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