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George asks, hey, Jordan, since you talk about giving value to people, I've put this as my goal,

and I've tried to improve myself and my connection to people by giving value without expecting anything

in return as a people, please or might. This episode really changed the way I look into relationships

and the expectations that I have from people. However, I've noticed that people become suspicious

when you help them in one way or another. I've felt that before, that feeling that there's a debt

piling up, a debt you won't be able to repay when the time comes. So my question to you is,

how do you give value to people without keeping score and without asking for a favor back?

I'm lost here because it feels right when I help people that I like and I'd love to keep them

in my circle, but they don't feel the same. Well, it's interesting, right? Because you just said,

it feels right to help other people. And there's something to that. When you help people and you

don't keep score, which is exactly how you're supposed to do it, then you're doing the right thing.

You're helping other people. You're not thinking about what you can get in return. Now, if they're

thinking this is strange, do you have to ask yourself, do you know that they're thinking that,

or is that just something that you have in the back of your head making you feel self conscious?

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