Fan Favorite: Feel Like You’re Failing? This Will Light a Fire Under Your Confidence | Aileen "Lavendaire" Xu

Women of Impact

Impact Theory

Education, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 657 Ratings

🗓️ 9 February 2025

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Aileen Xu, creator of Lavendaire, describes herself as an “artist of life.” She helps people design their dream life and embody their best self. And she knows all about how difficult the process can be, given that she had to embrace her own creativity over the objections of a family that desperately wanted her to pursue a conventional life of middle-class success. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Aileen Xu explains how to find your passion if you haven’t discovered it, how to deal with other peoples’ criticisms and negativity, and how to rewrite the negative voices in your own head so that they become more compassionate and empowering. [ORIGINAL AIR DATE: 7-9-21]. SHOW NOTES: Aileen talks about parental expectations in an immigrant family [2:18] Aileen describes the tension between wanting to be creative and her family’s desires [5:50] You have to tell yourself you’re a pro before you become one [11:06] How to rewrite the voices in your head so that the self-criticism ends [12:38] People are mirrors and only projecting their own insecurities onto you [15:03] Follow your curiosity if you don’t know what your passion is yet [16:59] Aileen explains why she decided to not pursue singing and music [18:44] Done is better than perfect. [21:17] You are never too old to take the first step towards your ideal life [24:09] Aileen shares her superpower [25:28] Aileen talks about the lessons she learned from COVID-19 [25:59] FOLLOW AILEEN: WEBSITE: https://www.lavendaire.com INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/lavendaire FACEBOOK: facebook.com/Lavendaire/ TWITTER: twitter.com/lavendaire LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:53.6	A lot of people don't realize we are our own worst enemy, we're our own
0:56.7	worst critic. And that voice of criticism comes from maybe like your parents always criticize
1:02.2	you or, or it could be anything really, but it's learning to rewrite the voices that are in
1:08.4	your head because once the voices in your head become positive
1:11.1	and supportive and loving, like you look in the mirror every day, you tell yourself like,
1:15.4	I got this. The only thing worse than someone being mad at you is someone being disappointed in you.
1:25.8	Guys, you know that feeling, whether it's a friend, a partner,
1:29.0	a boss or a parent. When you fail to live up to someone's expectations, it just out and out
1:34.5	sucks. So much so that so many of us live our entire lives for other people. And today's guest
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