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This month, The Awesome Marriage, we're talking about family issues when it comes to marriage. And today we're going to be specifically talking

about a very specific issue. We're going to be talking about family speaking negative about your

spouse. So Dr. Kim, what do we mean when we say family speaking negative about yourself?

Like give us some examples of how this might play out. Yeah, because I think it happens in a lot of different ways. I think sometimes we're really

aware of it. If it's overt, like if someone is just saying something really bad about your spouse

or say, you know, they're never going to mount anything. Why do you stay in the relationship?

Things like that, you know, we're going to be the overt things we notice.

I think it's some of the more subtle things that we don't notice that, you know, maybe,

maybe your parent comes over and they bring you a new pair of shoes and they say, hey, I got

these new shoes for you because I know your husband would never be able to afford these for you.

You know, and so they do some more subtle things like that.

So I think we have to be aware that can happen in a lot of ways.

Now, if that parent would have brought something over, hey, I got these new shoes.

I know you'd like them.

Great.

Stop right there.

But sometimes we have these little tags onto it, you know, and I've seen this,

with grandparents doing this with grandkids, you know, they'll say, well, honey, when you're over here, we know your parents

are way too strict. And so when you're over here, you can do anything you want.

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