Hi, everybody. Thanks for tuning into the women's dating and confidence podcast. Today's episode is going to be a response to a listener question. And I'm going to read it to you now. So she said,

after a while, you come across a guy that excites you. You instantly want to jump into it,

but that's the perfect way to push him away. How do you take the weight off the expectation from

that particular guy or wanting it to work with him and just maintain things at a healthy pace or generally

just not see it as the end all be all. Thank you so much for your question. As you guys know,

you can use the link in the show notes to send me any questions that you have for this podcast.

So a few episodes ago, I shared with you guys a personal rejection story of mine that was

really tough in the moment where a guy basically broke up with me after two weeks by not showing

up to our date and blocking me on all social media channels. And of course, like now it's really funny, but at the time,

I was really crushed. And I told you that story, but I didn't really talk about why that

happened. And it's easy to kind of blame him and just say that he was a crazy guy. And like,

maybe there was some stuff on his end but I do think it's

good to kind of reflect and see like hmm like how could I have showed up to that situation

differently without criticizing yourself without being really harsh and negative but just like

an honest reflection on how you showed up. So here are some things that

I learned personally from that situation where I got really excited about a guy and rushed into

things and didn't keep my cool that I feel like are going to apply exactly to your situation

as well and the question that you asked. So the first thing that I learned

is to fall for the person and not the idea. During that relationship and leading up to it before

the grand breakup, I would constantly imagine our future. I would think of where this is headed. I would listen to

songs that were romantic and imagine us frolicking in gardens. I was spending so much time in my

imagination and not a lot of time in the reality of what our relationship

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