The late great basketball coach John Wooden observed, failure isn't fatal, but failure

to change might be.

And that's a wonderful principle when you mess up in your marriage,

as we all do from time to time.

I'm John Fuller, along with Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife Aaron,

they lead the Focus marriage department and Greg

failure can teach us a lot if we're willing in our marriage.

Yeah and I know that from lots and lots and lots of practice.

We're not studying practice.

Well, I love James 1-2 because it says

when you go through hard time,

so when you go through trials, consider those an opportunity and that's

exactly what is brilliant about how God uses failure in our life is to grow as

there's an opportunity there if we really

revisit and debrief and and go back and go okay I messed up I made a mistake I

failed but what did I learn?

Because, you know, failure is going to highlight strengths, so you're going to learn something about you,

you're going to learn some things maybe that you did well, you're going to learn some growth areas some issues

that you need to really attend to. Failure helps us to build resilience in our life.

It promotes the personal growth that I was talking about.

Failure can be a great way to learn empathy.

One, self-empathy is you go back and go, okay, man, I'm messed up there.

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