FAH in 5 Minutes: Ask Your Kids Good Questions

Famous at Home

Josh + Christi Straub

Parenting, Relationships, Christianity, Religion & Spirituality, Society & Culture, Kids & Family

4.9 • 653 Ratings

🗓️ 6 November 2020

⏱️ 5 minutes

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Summary

Getting our kids to name what they feel in distressing moments often comes by asking good questions. Contrary to our natural instinct, we don't need to fix our kids so they feel happy all of the time. The power is just sitting with them in their uncomfortable emotions and helping them label what happened.

Think of it as putting together a puzzle. What did they see, think, hear, smell, taste, or touch? We don't even need to ask them what they're feeling. Sometimes it's too difficult for them to label. But when we inquire about the facts and take the time to ask good questions, the emotions begin to make sense.

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0:00.0	Welcome to Famous at Home in five minutes.
0:04.2	Practical insights for creating a family of connection, celebration, and purpose.
0:10.6	Talk about emotion. This is one of the most fascinating ways to be able to get your children
0:15.3	to be able to calm their brain when they're overwhelmed or they're anxious. And we can do that as parents.
0:23.7	I remember a few years ago when I wrote the book Safehouse, Christy came up with this phrase,
0:28.6	that parenting isn't rocket science, it's just brain surgery. And there was one particular example
0:34.2	that comes to my mind about how we did this a number of years ago, Landon
0:37.8	our firstborn, he was young at the time, he couldn't read. And I remember being upstairs in the upstairs
0:43.2	playroom. We have this like guest room, playroom, and he couldn't read at the time. It was like spring.
0:49.7	It was like, you know, we had the windows open. And he walked over to the window and he said, dad, he looked at the warning label on the bottom of the screen.
0:56.0	He said, Dad, what does that say?
0:58.2	And I didn't think anything of it.
0:59.3	I just read it out loud.
1:00.4	And it said, caution, screen will not prevent child from falling out window.
1:06.5	And I remember looking at Landon's face and he just kind of slowly backed up.
1:12.0	And he didn't say anything the rest of the time.
1:14.0	And I just like, okay, he knows not to go near the window.
1:16.9	At 2.30 in the morning, I felt this tap on my shoulder.
1:19.5	And my mattress was leaning, you know, pushing on down.
1:22.6	And you wake up and you're like startled because there's these two eyes staring right
1:25.9	at you in the face.
1:26.8	And he was crying uncontrollably.
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