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The phrase, You Can't Have Your Cake and Eat It Too is an idiom that

dates back several centuries. Its origins can be traced to the 16th century,

although the exact phrase has evolved over time.

Originally the phrase appeared in different forms, such as,

You Can't Eat Your Cake and Have It, or you Can't Have Your Cake and eat it. The basic meaning has always been the same.

Once you consume or use something, you no longer have it to show off to others, removing

the possibility of having everything exactly as one wants.

Over time, the phrase has become a common expression in the English language, used to convey

the idea that one cannot have two or more conflicting things

at the same time.

It can be used ungenerously, such as when a celebrity complains about the way they've been

spoken about on social media, you'll often

hear, well, she can't have her cake and eat it too, meaning she can't be famous and have her privacy. In everyday usage though, you are more likely to hear this idiom when talking about affairs and having multiple partners on the side.

In this case, when someone says, well, they can't have their cake and eat it too,

they might mean someone can't expect to keep a marriage and happy family together

while also seeing other people on the side.

In this episode, we'll discuss Ezra McCandless

who not only wanted an extra piece of cake,

but wanted two extra pieces,

or maybe even a whole extra cake if she had managed to get her way.

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