Hey, welcome back to another episode of the Relationship Coaching School. How is it going?

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Today we're talking about extreme ownership. And ownership and personal responsibility,

which is synonymous, are a part of my coaching model that I call the six client outcomes. We want our clients to be able to

take responsibility for their life and more on a micro scale each day in their relationships,

in a fight, for example. What is your part client? And this really matters because I think I did a

podcast a while back on this and it was to me, it's like one of the most important developmental

steps a human being can take is to take responsibility for the outcomes they're getting.

And this really challenges victims, and victims do not like this at all, because they feel

blamed.

Like, what?

Are you blaming me?

And in 2016, years ago, I did a blog post called fault versus responsibility because I had a woman come

after me and basically say, what are you saying? You know, because I challenge people when

there's an affair that often there's two parts. Of course, there's the person that did the affair,

cheated, has way more responsibility. But often the person who's the victim of an affair

if they look closely and examine they have a part which is important not to blame anybody it's

important to go huh is there anything I could have done to prevent this?

Is there any behaviors that I was doing that may have contributed to my partner acting out?

And sometimes there might not be, but often when we challenge a person in this situation,

there is something. And they begin to see like, oh, right. I can see how I was neglecting my partner, for example, or trying too hard

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