Hi everybody. Welcome to the women's dating and confidence podcast. My name is Amber, and today we're

going to be talking about the dating experiment mindset. So this came up during a recent coaching call with one of my clients, and we were talking

about this idea of an experiment mindset when it comes to dating, because sometimes we can get

really caught up and taking it so seriously, like it's life or death.

And when you take dating and the results from your dates and just in general, like,

wanting a result from every action that you take and it's like very serious and heavy,

that can really turn off the people that you're dating because you want to approach it

with a more

lighthearted playful mindset versus like this is serious business this date needs to lead

somewhere something needs to happen here in order for me to be happy kind of mindset and

one thing that I offered is to approach dating with an experiment-like mindset, with this

curiosity about what might happen, and this openness to finding out what the consequence of your

action is going to be instead of being so heavily attached to what the consequence of your

action should be. So for example,

the action that you might take is going on a date with somebody that you met online. Now,

instead of having this really heavy expectation for what should happen or what you really want to

happen, you just have this openness and this curiosity about it. Like, I wonder what

this date will be like. I wonder what this person will be like. I wonder what we'll talk about.

I wonder how he'll respond if I playfully touch his arm. I wonder if I should pay the bill or if we

should split it or like what will happen there. What kind of response will I get here if I do this?

And any feedback that you get is not negative or positive. It's just information. It's like,

oh, like maybe I should try this next time or this conversation went really well. Like I should try

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