Exhausted From Being a People Pleaser? Use THIS 0–10 Rule to Say “No” Without Guilt
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
iHeartPodcasts
4.8 • 28.5K Ratings
🗓️ 3 October 2025
⏱️ 49 minutes
🧾️ Download transcript
Summary
Do you say yes too often?
When was the last time you said no?
In this special live episode recorded at an iHeart event in New York City, Jay Shetty reflects on his journey from speaking to empty rooms to sharing ancient wisdom with millions around the world. He reveals how reframing adversity helps us face life’s “first arrows” without adding the extra pain of self-criticism, and the daily practices that keep him grounded through challenge. With powerful stories, from a Navy SEAL finding purpose through On Purpose while on deployment, to a young cheerleader who radiates joy despite paralysis, Jay shows how resilience and perspective can transform even our hardest moments into sources of strength and growth.
Jay breaks down what it really means to make “wisdom go viral” and why presence, not time, is the key to deeper connection. He shares the courage it takes to say no to protect your energy, how to keep your soul at the center in an AI-driven world, and the creativity that unlocks when seeing life through childlike eyes. This episode is your reminder to slow down, live with purpose, and let curiosity lead you toward greater connection and fulfillment.
In this conversation, you'll learn:
How to Reframe Adversity
How to Build Confidence from Hard Times
How to Protect Your Energy in Service
How to Say No Without Guilt
How to Think With Childlike Creativity
When we pause to reflect, reconnect with what truly matters, and choose to act with purpose, we not only uplift ourselves, we inspire others to do the same. Keep leaning into curiosity, resilience, and compassion, and you’ll find that the path ahead holds far more possibility than limitation.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:48 It Started with Small, Empty Rooms
04:41 How Do You Approach Adversity?
07:48 The Reservoir of Joy
13:15 Making Wisdom Go Viral
17:25 Why Audio Feels Intimate
21:09 Navigating the Age of AI
25:54 Breaking Free from People Pleasing
31:58 Learning to Adapt When Life Shifts
35:38 Unlocking Creativity with the 30 Circles Test
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Transcript
Click on a timestamp to play from that location
| 0:00.0 | This is an IHeart podcast. |
| 0:04.1 | It's important that we just reassure people that they're not alone, and there is help out there. |
| 0:09.2 | The Good Stuff podcast, season two, takes a deep look into One Tribe Foundation, |
| 0:13.5 | a non-profit fighting suicide in the veteran community. |
| 0:16.4 | September is National Suicide Prevention Month, so join host Jacob and Ashley Schick as they bring you to the front lines of One Tribe's mission. One Tribe saved my life twice. Welcome to Season 2 of the Good Stuff. Listen to the Good Stuff podcast on the Iheart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hey guys, it's AZ Fudd. You may know me as a gold medalist. |
| 0:38.4 | You may know me as an NCAA national champion. |
| 0:41.3 | You may even know me as the People's Princess. |
| 0:43.7 | Every week on my new podcast, Fud Around and Find Out, I'll be talking to some special |
| 0:48.0 | guests about pop culture, basketball, and what it's like to be a professional athlete |
| 0:52.2 | on and off the court. |
| 0:53.7 | Listen to Fud Around and |
| 0:54.7 | Find Out, a production of IHeart women's sports in partnership with unanimous media on the IHart |
| 0:59.3 | Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. It may look different, but native culture |
| 1:07.6 | is alive. My name is Nicole Garcia, and on Burn Sage, Burn Bridges, we aim to explore that culture. Somewhere along the way, it turned into this full-fledged, award-winning comic shop. That's Dr. Lee Francis IV, who opened the first Native comic bookshop. Explore his story along with many other native stories on the show, Burn Sage Burn Bridges. |
| 1:28.6 | Listen to Burn Sage Burn Bridges on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. |
| 1:34.6 | How amazing would it be? I've been so fortunate to learn about these traditions that are 5,000 years old. |
| 1:40.1 | They're not my teachings. They're not my wisdom. It's wisdom that I've gained from my teachers and mentors. |
| 1:44.7 | How amazing would it be if these went viral and everyone for free could have access to these tools and skills? |
| 1:51.8 | What an amazing world we would live in. |
| 1:53.7 | What if compassion could go viral? |
| 1:56.4 | What if empathy could go viral? |
| 1:58.2 | What if the ideas that bring people together could go viral? |
... |
Please login to see the full transcript.
Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from iHeartPodcasts, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.
Generated transcripts are the property of iHeartPodcasts and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.
Copyright © Tapesearch 2025.