I amla I amla I had a baby daddy relationship I spent time in a relationship with a married man I had to learn the skills and tools required to make my relationships healthy, fulfilling, and loving.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. Greetings and welcome to the R-Spot. This is the place where we examine,

explore, dissect, and investigate issues, and problems related to relationships, all kinds of relationships.

It is my intention that we all learn and develop the skills and tools required to make our

relationships better because relationships are such an essential part of our lives.

They are the places we go to grow in our experience of love.

I am Yon the Van Zant, your host, your facilitator, and... and your co-pilitator

co-pilot for a journey into relationship.

So here's a little something for us to nibble on today because no matter who you are

chances are you have one and X your past previous former partner-lover spouse, from a relationship that is now defunct by

God prior. That means you either have a was-bend or a wife-bin. And it doesn't matter what you call

him or her or how you dress it up. Most of us have as least one. Some of us have a whole

team of them. An ex, a person who had potential maybe or perhaps you thought they were the one you

wanted them to be the one you knew they weren't the one but you

stayed and tried to make it work the X who calls you sometime and when they do you wonder why? Why are you calling me or they never call and you wonder why? Why don't they ever call me I mean after all that we were together

don't they think about me or when they do call you hate it or you love it or you may use it as just another opportunity

to stick it to them or have them stick it to you an ex.

Whether the relationship ended well, if that's even possible or badly. If you have an ex chances are you have some baggage, some hurt,

some upset, some believe some perceptions that you may still be dragging around.

Because you see, if you didn't complete the relationship consciously and cleanly, your ex may still be occupying space in your heart

and in your life, or worse, they may be wreaking havoc in your mind your heart and in your new

relationship. It's not uncommon that many of us cannot move forward in our

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