Everything About Your Vulva Explained

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.3 • 6.8K Ratings

🗓️ 31 March 2026

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

Most women can name every product in their skincare routine but can't tell you the last time they actually paid attention to their vulva. Not because you don't care — because nobody ever taught you to. And that silence is costing women their pleasure, their comfort, and sometimes their health. In this episode, I sit down with OB-GYN and women's sexual health expert Dr. Sherry Ross — author of the V-ology book series and someone I consider one of the most important voices in women's intimate health — for the most practical, shame-free conversation about vulva and vaginal health I've ever had on this show. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why your vulva needs the same care and attention as your face — and what most of us are getting completely wrong about cleaning, moisturizing, and maintaining vaginal health at every age • The truth about painful sex, perimenopause, and recurring infections — what's actually causing them, why doctors keep dismissing the symptoms, and the solutions most women have never been told about • Whether every woman can learn to squirt, what your labia is supposed to look like, and why the clitoris — the road to success — might be the most important thing you're not paying enough attention to This episode is sponsored by... Get the LELO SURFER 2 at lelo.com/surfer-2 and use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off More Dr. Emily: • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:26 - Meet Dr. Sherry Ross: OBGYN & Author of the Shiology Book Series 4:35 - Treat Your Vagina Like the Skin on Your Face 6:32 - The Visual Vaginal Library & Why Porn Is Distorting Body Image 8:08 - Can Every Woman Squirt? Dr. Sherry Weighs In 10:09 - Listener Q&A: Perimenopause Symptoms, Hormones & What to Ask Your Doctor 13:36 - Wearable Dilators: What They Are & Who Actually Needs Them 15:27 - The Real Causes of Painful Sex (Beyond Just Dryness) 18:00 - Recurring UTIs & Yeast Infections: Why They Keep Happening 19:05 - Five Quickie Questions with Dr. Sherry Ross Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	The clitoris, the road to success.
0:05.0	I mean, you have to know where it is.
0:08.0	What's your anatomy?
0:09.0	I think it's so important to know.
0:11.0	And then I really think it's important to know how to care for your vagina, how to clean it.
0:15.0	And vagina, meaning vulva and vagina, I think this is what's also been a problem for us is, you know, used to be
0:22.2	vagina meant everything. You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help
0:28.6	you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. How well do you know the
0:33.9	vulva and vagina? On this episode, I'm joined by two guests to break down
0:37.7	all things V. We're talking about how to take care of your vulva, the importance of
0:41.5	strengthening your pelvic floor, and so much more. My guest is OBGYN, author of the
0:46.7	Shiology book series and an expert in all things women's sexual health, Dr. Sherry Ross.
0:51.7	She shares the benefits of getting to know your or your partner's vulva, the relationship between insecurity and porn, solutions for painful sex, and of course, squirting. Please rate and review sex with Emily. Wherever you listen to the show, it helps get the shot to more people, and it just takes you a few seconds to do it. You can just do it right now. Look at your phone, look at your app that you're listening to this on and review us.
1:12.8	We so appreciate it.
1:14.1	You can also find me on Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, Twitter, or X, and Facebook, all the places. It's all at Sex with Emily. All right, everyone, enjoy this episode. Okay, so if you've been listening to this show for a while, you know I'm not about random sex toys or gimmicks.
1:32.0	I'm about tools that actually support your pleasure, your communication, and your connection.
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1:40.0	Everything in there is curated by me and my team.
1:42.6	And these are products I trust. I recommend to clients and what tell my friends about. I do tell my friends about. It's what I talk about all the time. Whether you're exploring solo pleasure, looking to reconnect with a partner, or you really just want something body safe and beginner friendly. We've organized it so you don't feel overwhelmed. People love the dame pillow for supported sex, the magic wand
2:01.9	waterproof. Oh my God, it's so good. Cray Vesper, massage candles, Joe flavored lube, we vibe touch,
2:08.0	clitoral vibrators. There's just so many things on there because pleasure shouldn't be confusing.
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