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🗓️ 24 March 2022
⏱️ 32 minutes
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0:00.0 | Welcome to the Gathering Pod, the audio version of my weekly gathering room broadcast. |
0:07.6 | I'm Martha Beck. |
0:09.4 | If you've been hanging in the last couple of weeks, you may remember that two weeks ago, |
0:13.4 | I talked about the three things that make our lives the most miserable in terms of causing pain in the body and anxiety in the soul. And they are self-criticism, |
0:25.5 | worry, and pressure, especially pressure we put on ourselves to get things done. So as you know, |
0:32.9 | I set out on a cleanse. And my first cleanse, which I announced last week, was to cleanse myself of |
0:39.9 | self-criticism. And instead of criticizing myself, I decided I would step back when I noticed |
0:47.4 | criticism happening and be aggressively kind to myself, hardcore kindness. Some of you said it should be hardcore kindness. |
0:57.0 | And that is so clever. And I wish I'd thought of it, but I didn't. So I'm going to give that |
1:02.6 | back to you and say, you go. You like rule the world with that. It's amazing. This week, |
1:08.8 | oh, and I asked you how you were doing, and I hope some people will send in |
1:12.3 | the chat maybe a thing like, yeah, I know I'm doing well with that. I have found it transformative, |
1:17.9 | you guys. Like, it's, it is something I have to do deliberately. It never goes into just automatic |
1:24.7 | mode. And there's a reason for this. I talk about it all the time. |
1:33.4 | We have in the brain something called a negativity bias that makes us pay more attention to things that are dangerous or troubling or problematic because that way we can clean them up, get away |
1:38.5 | from them, do the things we have to do, which is fine unless you have a human brain that |
1:43.8 | stores this negativity as |
1:46.0 | a kind of system where it remembers the things that went wrong and imagines new things |
1:52.0 | that could go wrong and then starts telling stories about that that scare us even more than |
1:56.5 | the world around us. Okay, so self-criticism does that and it can build up and build up and build up |
2:02.0 | until you've got a dictator in your brain. And we talked last week about switching out the |
2:08.4 | dictator with someone kind with like, I don't know, Mary Poppins, someone firm and, you know, |
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