Esther Perel ON: Finding Love & the Real Reason Couples Break Up

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

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Business, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.7 • 30.5K Ratings

🗓️ 12 July 2021

⏱️ 70 minutes

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Summary

Esther Perel talks with Jay Shetty about how the quality of our relationships affect our daily life, the right mindset when seeking love, creating a connection, or keeping a partnership, and the biggest relationship challenges during the pandemic. Belgian psychotherapist Esther Perel is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker and podcast host. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 30 million views and she is also the host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? and How's Work?. Her newest project is Where Should We Begin - A Game of Stories. Learn more at EstherPerel.com/TheGame What We Discuss with Esther: 00:00 Intro 02:17 The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives 04:37 Relationship challenges while in quarantine and lockdown 08:55 Approaching a relationship at times of pressure 13:26 Resetting expectations of ourselves and boundaries of our space 18:23 When you’re putting an effort but your partner is unresponsive 22:14 Skills we lost in the pandemic and the skills we gained 27:47 Playing the ‘Where Should We Begin?’ game 33:58 Asking boring questions makes you feel that people are boring 36:48 Relationships about death, sex, and money 39:48 The intention or mindset one should approach love and relationships when seeking out a partner 42:57 From feeling madly in love to then feeling out of love, when they weren’t truly in love 45:36 What are the deepest, truest root reasons that relationships fail? 52:00 Have you been affected by the experience of infidelity in your life? 57:21 When to break up and move, when to stay and hold on 59:55 Fill in The Blanks 01:01:30 Esther on the Final Five 01:06:30 Meeting people who are truly happy and purposeful Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Episode Resources: Esther Perel | Website Esther Perel | Instagram Esther Perel | TED Speaker Esther Perel | YouTube Esther Perel | LinkedIn Esther Perel | Amazon Esther Perel | Facebook Where Should We Begin? Podcast Where Should We Begin: A Game of Stories Achieve success in every area of your life with Jay Shetty’s Genius Community. Join over 10,000 members taking their holistic well-being to the next level today, at https://shetty.cc/OnPurposeGenius

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0:00.0	How do I make a request that doesn't turn into a protest?
0:03.8	Instead of criticizing the other person, tell them what you want.
0:07.4	And tell them what you don't without implying that they're not doing it.
0:11.1	Because then they pay attention only to the fact that you told them
0:13.9	you're not doing it, you're wrong, it's you again.
0:16.6	And then they will basically do what every human being does, which is defend themselves.
0:20.6	Because nobody likes to be attacked.
0:22.3	Hey, everyone.
0:29.3	Welcome back to on purpose, the number one health podcast in the world.
0:33.4	Thanks to each and every single one of you that come back every week to listen, learn and grow.
0:39.3	Now, I'm really excited for this conversation because I've been speaking to this guest for
0:43.1	a while to get this to happen.
0:45.4	And I'm really excited because I know that this is a theme and a topic and a subject
0:50.6	that is something you have so many questions about.
0:54.2	My guest today is a psychotherapist in New York Times bestselling author.
0:58.0	She's recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships.
1:03.2	Fluent in nine languages, she homes a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an
1:08.4	organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world.
1:13.0	Her TED talks have garnered more than 30 million views and her bestselling books,
1:17.4	mating and captivity and the state of affairs are global phenomena translated into nearly
1:22.9	30 languages.
1:24.5	She's also the executive producer and host of the popular podcast, Where Should We Begin
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