Esther Perel: Is your relationship “normal”?

Dua Lipa: At Your Service

BBC

Society & Culture, Personal Journals

4.4 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 7 July 2023

⏱️ 41 minutes

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Summary

Dua asks beloved psychotherapist and podcaster Esther Perel all her burning questions (and some of yours, too!) about sex and dating, communication breakdowns in couples and how to fix them, how to keep curiosity alive in a partnership, and so, so much more. Whether you’ve never been in a relationship, are in a long-term partnership, or fall somewhere in between, Esther covers all your bases and then some.

Throughout their conversation, you’ll hear Dua and Esther discuss practical advice and exchange real-world tips and tricks that you can take with you into your own relationships – including how to engage your partner in a dialogue about intimacy concerns, “freshening up” a relationship when you’re feeling its lulls, questions you should ask someone you’ve just started seeing, and more. And – spoiler alert – no matter what you are into, there’s no such thing as “normal” in a relationship!

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0:00.0	Maybe it's just my algorithm, but I feel like social media recently is just video after
0:23.4	video of so-called experts who promise that they can fix your relationship.
0:27.7	I often think what these people's qualifications, and honestly, does a good relationship really
0:32.5	need to be improved upon?
0:39.0	The psychotherapist, Esther Perel, has been answering this question and so many more in
0:43.5	her work, one-to-one with clients for decades now.
0:47.2	From stigmas around sexuality and communication breakdowns to meaningful conversations about
0:52.3	monogamy and infidelity, Esther goes right into the deep end with her clients.
0:57.4	She asks incredibly insightful and probing questions to get couples thinking, and most
1:02.2	importantly, to walking.
1:07.0	Esther's podcast, where should we begin, blew my mind the first time I listened to it.
1:12.0	You're dropped into a one-time couples counselling session, and it can get pretty intense.
1:17.6	Being feels off limits, and emotions and vulnerability, I lay totally bad for everyone
1:22.4	to hit.
1:23.7	Being able to experience Esther at work, asking questions, pointing out landmines, stopping
1:28.4	conversations so partners can hear each other out, it's stunning and intimate, and really
1:33.7	unlike anything I had ever heard before.
1:36.7	I'm not that angry anymore, it's almost like I just don't care about it, like a little
1:43.8	bit of indifference, and we're more like friends.
1:48.7	No sex, because I don't want to, because I don't know, because when I gave myself to
2:04.6	you, you didn't respect it, and now I want going to protect myself.
2:09.4	Yes.
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