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today. When you first get married there's a really big adjustment period to

start kind of prioritizing your marriage over other relationships and

activities. For some it's a struggle to leave your family of origin and start

fresh. I'm John Fuller along with the couple who lead our marriage department

here at Focus. It's Greg and Aaron Smollion. Aaron you do a lot of counseling. How

often does this leave and cleave concept present itself as a problem in your

counseling office? All the time. And when I work with pre-marital couples in our

ready-to-wed curriculum that we created here at Focus I use that within my

private practice. There's a whole chapter on leaving and cleaving because it's

an important concept that we leave our family of origin and we cleave to our

new spouse. And so that comes up frequently and it you know it actually takes

time for this process to happen. Moving from me to we can take anywhere from

seven to fourteen years. Wow. I don't think everybody goes into marriage

thinking and by year 15 I should have this down. Right? It gives a couple a

break by better helping them understand what's the right expression? Yes that's

they're not going to do this in your one or two. It's going to take some time.

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