The thing that I think that most people miss out on and don't talk about when it comes to the

concept of perfectionism, why it exists, why we aim for it, where it shows up in our life

and what function it serves and how we can actually move out of that space of perfectionism,

the thing that I think that most people neglect to talk about

is the fact that perfectionism and self-punishment are inextricably connected, right? Perfectionism

and your aim for it and your need for it inevitably morphs and transforms into the reason

and the justification of why you get to punish yourself

for not achieving some impossible task, some impossible expectation, right? Because the truth

about perfectionism that we all kind of know, right, that doesn't even need to be said, but I'm going to

say it anyways, is that perfectionism is a all kind of know, right, that doesn't even need to be sad by going to say it

anyways, is that perfectionism is a kind of impossibility. It is a myth. It's an illusion. It's a fantasy

that you create. And it's a fantasy that you create an illusion that you create a myth that you

create because somewhere along the line you were maybe told that you weren an illusion, that you create a myth that you create, because somewhere along the

line, you were maybe told that you weren't good enough, and so you're trying to achieve the

impossible to prove somebody wrong. Or you were told that you had to be perfect in order to be

accepted. And so you've been striving towards this impossible goal. The reality of perfectionism is that you never reach it.

You never get there. That's why it's a myth. That's why it's illusion. That's why you are

continually trying to strive towards this kind of elusive target that you never seem to land on.

And every single time that you miss it, every single time that

you miss the target of perfectionism, what's on the other side? What's on the other side is punishment.

It's on the other side is you self-deprecating, shaming yourself, you know, villainizing yourself,

guilting yourself, being angry,

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