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Pillow Talks

Episode 96: Things That Go Bump (Or Bang) In the Night

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.82.2K Ratings

🗓️ 23 March 2023

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

Do you and your partner go to bed at the same time? In the same bed? In the same ROOM?

It’s easy to get stuck in the stereotypes of what a couple “should” be doing, and what it means if you and your partner have unconventional sleep habits. After polling our Instagram audience, we found that many of you are worried that “different” is spelled t-r-o-u-b-l-e, so in this grab bag episode, we address a collection of sleep-related topics that we hope will put your minds at ease. We’ll tell you all about the choices we’ve made about bed times, bed arrangements, to cuddle or not to cuddle, and what to do with the dogs when it’s time for lights out.

Now, we couldn’t talk about sleep habits without talking about the ever-popular subject of sex dreams, so don’t miss out on the hilarious revelations of what really gets our subconscious motors running and how we feel about not always co-starring in each other’s fantasies.

(Heads up: At the very end of the episode, we define sexsomnia, how it can be a game-changer, and how it can bring up tricky issues around consent.)

Links & Resources:

YouTube Video: What Does It Mean If I Have A Sex Dream? Our Instagram: Vanessa + Xander

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode96

Transcript

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0:00.0

Have you done that?

0:01.2

Yeah, I mean, I think a lot, a long time ago.

0:03.5

Really?

0:04.3

You like finish yourself off and then go right back to sleep?

0:08.2

Yeah, I mean, what else am I going to do?

0:15.4

Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks podcast.

0:18.6

We're your host, Vanessa.

0:20.1

And Zander Marin.

0:21.4

I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.

0:24.3

And I'm just a regular dude.

0:26.0

We share the ups and downs in our relationship

0:28.2

while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours.

0:31.7

Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date

0:34.0

full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice,

0:38.1

hilarious and honest stories of what really

0:40.8

goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more.

0:44.5

It's the sex education you wish you'd had.

0:48.8

We have a different sort of episode for you today.

0:52.0

A real grab bag, I think you'd say.

0:55.2

We're switching it up.

0:56.2

We're switching things up.

0:57.6

We were talking to our team about different funny things

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