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into greatness. Absolutely. We want you to have a great marriage, great family. And speaking of family,

Cori, something kind of funny happened this week. My oldest son plays baseball, so he was home just for a few days and he said we were out to dinner and he said he holds his phone up and says is your mule still for sale. He says, oh you won't believe this. My phone

started blowing up with text messages and calls about my donkey for sale and then my goat for sale.

I said, what in the world?

He says, well, it turned out I'd been pulling a prank

on one of my teammates all year, and he never knew it was me, but then he figured it out and he posted an ad on

Craigslist it says I have a mule for sale and he put Jordan's phone number.

It was the best. sale and he put Jordan's phone number.

It was the best prank ever.

But it makes me think that when there's something wonky going on

in our life or relationships, chances are, we actually do have something to do with it

as random as it sings. Exactly because that's one of the fundamental things that I

think is important for people to realize is that what happens in

marriage is co-created. That's such a good phrase. And while you know major things

that occur you know like if if a spouse steps out and has an affair or just totally leaves and

ask for a divorce you know ultimate decisions rest on the shoulders of the people

that make the decision.

Right. But the system is co-created and the things that happen are co-created.

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