Episode 78: Al-Anon, Addiction, and Divorce with Dr. Elizabeth Cohen
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 574 Ratings
🗓️ 2 July 2020
⏱️ 58 minutes
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Summary
This week, Dr. Elizabeth Cohen and I discuss how to cope when your partner has an active addiction. Underneath everything you are going through, there is so much fear and a lack of belief in yourself. Everything about a divorce is uncomfortable. Dr. Elizabeth Cohen helps people get a little more comfortable with something so painful.
When you're living with or divorcing a partner who has an active addiction, you may find yourself acting out different behaviors like the need to control every situation. You may become (or already be!) codependent, and you focus on their healing instead of your own. When you finally take the focus off of them and towards yourself you can begin to see light at the end of what may be a very dark tunnel.
Show Highlights
- When women share themselves openly and honestly, the world begins to split open. (9:21)
- Focusing on your growth and healing is how we change the world — and our circumstances. (11:06)
- The issue with wanting to control a situation while being in denial about what the real problem is. (17:21)
- Sublimating your own needs for someone else. (23:00)
- Breaking the cycle of codependency. (24:15)
- The core issue about a person abusing any substance is the difficulty sitting with emotions. (34:41)
- A partner should never be responsible for healing the other. (38:36)
- Some advice for those who are living with an active addict. (47:33)
Learn More About Dr. Cohen:
Dr. Cohen is the CEO and founder of the online divorce course and membership Afterglow: The Light at the Other Side of Divorce. This 14 week course teaches women how to heal, grow and thrive after divorce no matter how difficult the process has been. Dr. Cohen offers a monthly membership program to provide 1:1 coaching, expert support from divorce professionals and an engaged community of like-minded people. Dr. Cohen received her PhD in clinical psychology from Boston University. She was the recipient of the prestigious American Psychological Foundation Research Award for her doctoral research. She has been featured on the Tamron Hall Show, the Wall Street Journal, NBC News, Women's Health, Huff Post, Thrive Global, Daily Beast and Good Housekeeping. Dr. Cohen is a weekly contributor to Psychology Today with her "Divorce Course" column.
Resources & Links:
Facebook The Divorce Doctor- Elizabeth Cohen,PhD
14 Day Step-By-Step Guide To Make Any Tough Decision While Going Through Divorce
3 Steps to Take Right Now for A Stress Free Divorce
Our Happy Divorce Livestream, Drugs, Alcohol, and Divorce with Kate and Elizabeth
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go. |
| 0:17.7 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate |
| 0:22.8 | some of the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. |
| 0:28.5 | I've been to hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side |
| 0:34.2 | of this process with your sanity and your heart intact. |
| 0:41.5 | Hey everyone. |
| 0:43.3 | Welcome back to another episode of the Divorce Survival Guide podcast. |
| 0:47.8 | How y'all doing? |
| 0:49.2 | I just want to say, you know, every once in a while, I throw out some gratitude for all of you guys, |
| 0:58.0 | for hanging in with me, for listening, for, you know, just being you. I think last month I may |
| 1:05.7 | have had the most downloads of any month since my podcast has been around. And I don't, I don't do it for that, |
| 1:16.2 | but it's always nice to know that I'm reaching people and that my words matter to people, |
| 1:25.9 | that my podcast helps you. I mean, honestly, that's, that's, I do this |
| 1:31.1 | because I'm trying to, um, affect change in the world. And this is kind of my little slice |
| 1:36.9 | and how I do it. And just to know, um, the, you know, that, you know, tens of thousands of people listen to this podcast every month just makes me so happy. |
| 1:50.6 | And it doesn't make me happy because it makes me feel like famous or, which is kind of ridiculous. |
| 1:56.2 | But really because it means that I'm reaching people and then I'm making a difference and that's |
| 2:02.3 | literally all I want in this world. |
| 2:04.9 | All that to say thank you. |
| 2:06.2 | Thank you for showing up. |
| 2:07.3 | Thank you for listening. |
| 2:08.2 | Thank you for being here. |
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