Episode 73: Our Happy Divorce with Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 574 Ratings
🗓️ 26 May 2020
⏱️ 74 minutes
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Summary
Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo still share a happy life with their son Asher and their spouses and children.
As we continue Parenting Month on The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast, Ben and Nikki join me to discuss their happy divorce story. Yes, happy. There is no villain in their story. As you'll hear in this episode, they came to a spot in their divorce where they took accountability for their actions and worked together to create a new life for their separated family.
If you're thinking, "This could never happen to me," I'd like to offer a word of caution: please don't compare where you're at in the divorce process with Ben and Nikki's journey. Instead, use their story as inspiration. We hope that you end up in a place where you see a happy divorce as something you can work to achieve.
Show Highlights
- The red flags that came up on their wedding day, about getting married. (12:20)
- The story of their divorce, how it went from what looked like an ugly divorce to one of agreement and solace. (14:52)
- Divorce doesn't screw up kids. It's how we do our divorces. (20:39)
- We all take responsibility; we both have to take responsibility for our parts. (30:18)
- Ben and Nikki' s negative experience going to divorce class. (36:06)
- Advice for those getting divorced who may not be in the same place as Ben and Nikki, what you can do if you are on one side of divorce and not being met on that side by your partner. (53:50)
- New relationships after divorce, Ben and Nikki got their new significant others on board with your unique link. (57:40)
Learn More About Ben and Nikki:
From weeknight dinners and homework sessions to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki and Ben have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go. |
| 0:17.7 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate |
| 0:22.8 | some of the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. |
| 0:28.5 | I've been to hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side |
| 0:34.2 | of this process with your sanity and your heart intact. |
| 0:44.6 | Welcome to another episode of the Divorce Survival Guide podcast. I'm so happy to have you |
| 0:51.4 | here with me this week. And I got a few things I want to tell you about. The first |
| 0:57.4 | thing I want to tell you about really quickly is that I now am offering transcripts of all of my |
| 1:02.9 | podcasts. That's not true. The last three podcasts. I'm not going back and transcribing all of them. |
| 1:09.0 | But because I heard that a lot of people were having trouble being able to listen during the |
| 1:15.1 | pandemic because of perhaps inquiring ears in your households, I created, I've been doing |
| 1:24.2 | transcripts. |
| 1:25.0 | I've transcribed the last three and going forward, this will be |
| 1:28.1 | the fourth. So they're all available on my website. We'll link to them in the show notes. But if you |
| 1:34.2 | go to my website to my podcast page, the ones that have a transcription available, there will be a |
| 1:41.1 | button that will take you to what will look like a blog post or an interview |
| 1:45.5 | blog post. So that's that. I heard you and I'm working with you here. The second thing I wanted |
| 1:54.0 | to tell you about something kind of, it's kind of silly, but it's kind of fun. So I'm not sure if I've |
| 1:58.5 | told you guys this or not. You may have heard me mention it, |
| 2:01.7 | but I'm in a band, which in and of itself is crazy. It's never anything I ever thought I would do. |
| 2:09.6 | But it's also something that I've always wanted to do. So it's super fun. Interestingly, |
| 2:13.8 | my son is also in the band because he's an amazing guitar player. And my ex-husband is now also |
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