Welcome to the Delove Honor and Vacuum Podcast. I I'm Sheila Ray Grebwar from to love

honor and vacuum.com where we like to talk about how to make sex into a

passionate adventure and not just something on your to-do list and today I am coming to you from my

closed closet as usual because the sound is better in here and we're still trying to

work on getting our studio better but I'm not going to be on YouTube so this

week's podcast is only for audio

because I'm doing it myself and Rebecca's not with me and I want to get

really controversial and it just works out better this way so here here we go. We are going to talk about three big things that I am a little bit

upset about and I would really like us to think through more clearly.

One is how can we learn to be content in our sex life?

One is, is talking really the equivalent to having sex? Because women are told that a lot. You can't

expect him to talk to you if you don't have sex with him and the last one is

should we really be treating all divorces as if they're a scandal?

So we're going to go through these one by one and let's get going.

What I want to start off by saying there was a little bit of a caveat.

If there is a spectrum from A to Z and you say that Z is wrong, people

often assume that you're then arguing for A. But what if you're actually arguing for M? And that I think

is what is happening, is when I try to make an argument for M, when I try to say we need to meet

in the middle people assume that I'm arguing on the far spectrum and I'm not and so I want us to to really think about how we can find this middle ground where both people have to give a little bit because I think

we reflexively hate the thought that we have to be giving in a relationship and we find it much easier

to put the blame entirely on someone else. So let's aim for that middle as we think

through these issues today, okay? All right, now I have spent a lot of time on the

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