Welcome to Just Break Up, the podcast about love, heartbreak, and all the relationship advice you don't want to hear.

My name is Sierra the Mulder.

And I'm Sam Blackwell.

And today we're going to answer a letter from somebody who did everything right but still lost his relationship.

But before we begin, we just want to give you our Surgeon General's Warning, which is that Sierra and I are not licensed mental health practitioners.

No, we don't know what we're talking about. We're not professionals. We're not trained into this. We have had our hearts crushed and have crushed a few hearts. So we're experienced in that way, but we're not professionals. So please take our advice as you see fit. We're only here to offer our humble musings. So hopefully

you've said some understanding and maybe some laughs about the incredibly rewarding, but

mostly a confusing experience that is love. All right. Let's get into today's letter. So

today's letter comes from Henry Q, who's pronounced her he, him, who is writing from Malaysia.

Hi, my name is Henry 20, and I met a girl.

Let's call her R19 a month ago back in December 2025 through a uni exchange.

I've seen R before a couple of times through an open gym training,

but I've never talked to her up until the uni exchange.

We talked for a bit, and then she ended up following me on Instagram

and started

talking to me through DMs. For context, I've only been in one relationship that lasted

four months, and I was really toxic. It's been two years since that, and I've done a lot to better

myself and to tread very carefully around relationships. After chatting for a few weeks with R,

I started to be interested in her and i accidentally confessed

to her without meaning to i was multitasking while texting her and i basically sent her a confession to her

without realizing internally i was panicking because i had just met her not very long ago and it's

really weird to confess this early before getting to know her properly. To my surprise, she

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