Episode 64: Imago Therapy with Dr. Sarah Schewitz
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 574 Ratings
🗓️ 17 March 2020
⏱️ 55 minutes
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Summary
It's therapy month on the Divorce Survival Guide podcast! ICYMI: I've decided to organize podcast episodes into monthly themes, and right now, we're in the middle of Therapy Month!
Joining me to discuss all things Imago Therapy for couples is Dr. Sarah Schewitz. Dr. Sarah Schewitz is a licensed psychologist specializing in love and relationships and is the founder of the successful online psychology practice, Couples Learn.
Imago therapy is a specific style of relationship therapy designed to help conflict within relationships become opportunities for healing and growth. My ex-husband and I were in Imago therapy before our divorce, and well, it didn't save our marriage. But what it did do was provide us with a way to communicate compassionately and lovingly during our divorce.
Imago therapy opens compassion wells, and it allows for a deeper level of communication.
Sarah is an expert on the subject. In addition to discussing Imago, we also chat about why therapy (individual or couples) is so vital for your healing. Sarah puts it perfectly when she says, "Most of us are just unconsciously reacting to circumstances that are triggering our past childhood wounds without realizing it. If you can gain that awareness, you can then choose, 'Do I want to react this way or not?' And that's healing."
Show Highlights
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How remote couples therapy works (4:28)
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Misconceptions around childhood trauma and how they impact current relationships (6:59)
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The definition of trauma and conflict trauma (9:11)
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How Sarah addresses the panic-stricken husband who didn't realize things were 'that bad' (14:15)
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Imago therapy and Imago dialogue: what it is and how couples can use it for a more profound level communication (16:58)
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More on the Imago dialogue and why the respect for your partner's availability is so important (22:00)
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Sarah shares how she approaches therapy with someone who has been in an abusive relationship after abusive relationship (25:12)
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How to elicit a conversation about childhood wounds using Imago Dialogue, with a real-world example (51:26)
"Whether the relationship stays together or not, investing in yourself is never a loss." Dr. Sarah Schewitz
Learn More About Dr. Sarah Schewitz:
Dr. Sarah Schewitz (pronounced Shevitz like Manischewitz wine) is a licensed psychologist specializing in love & relationships and is the founder of the successful online psychology practice, Couples Learn. She has been working with couples and individuals to improve their love lives for over 10 years now. In 2019, Sarah was named one of Datezie's most influential dating experts and one of the top 3 marriage counselors in Los Angeles. Sarah has been featured in articles for outlets such as Readers Digest, Playboy, Bravo TV, AskMen, Self, and more. Dr. Sarah's private practice is relatively unique in that she is one of the only doctoral-level couples therapists whose practice is 100% online.
Resources & Links:
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, Harville Hendrix Ph.D
Getting the Love You Want Workshops
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go. |
| 0:17.7 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate |
| 0:22.7 | some of the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. |
| 0:28.4 | I've been to hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side |
| 0:34.2 | of this process with your sanity and your heart intact. |
| 0:42.3 | Hey everyone, welcome to another episode of the Divorce Survival Guide podcast. It is Therapy Month. |
| 0:52.5 | Woo, woo. |
| 1:05.8 | So in case you missed it, I have decided to organize my episodes into themed months. |
| 1:13.7 | So this is Therapy Month, and we're in the middle of therapy month. And then next week we start, |
| 1:23.5 | next month we start a two month series on sex. Oh my God. How exciting is that? Yeah, we had to have two months on sex. And then we're going to have some divorce stories. We're going to have a month |
| 1:28.6 | on legal stuff where we're going to talk about mediation and collaborative divorce and all |
| 1:33.6 | sorts of things to do legal and some financial. It's just going to go on from there. And you can |
| 1:39.0 | check my Instagram page for the breakdown of all of the months. But this is Therapy Month. |
| 1:44.0 | And I'm super excited |
| 1:45.0 | today to bring you my interview with Sarah Shevitz. Now, you might know Sarah from Instagram. |
| 1:51.8 | If you don't, you need to go find her. She is at Couples Learn. And Sarah, first of all, we're now we're best friends, which I know you guys hear me say |
| 2:04.9 | all the time. But when I get together with like-minded women and we start talking, it goes so far |
| 2:11.6 | beyond just this professional relationship. Like we just, we're, we know, our values are aligned. And the work that we're |
| 2:19.5 | doing in the world is aligned. And it means something and it matters. And we, you know, become friends. |
| 2:25.1 | So that's what that's what happens. Dr. Sarah Shevitz is a licensed psychologist, specializing in love |
| 2:31.5 | and relationships. And she's the founder of the successful online psychology |
| 2:35.3 | practice couples learn. Sarah's been working with couples and individuals to improve their love lives |
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