Episode 63: How to Deal with the Other Woman
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 574 Ratings
🗓️ 10 March 2020
⏱️ 21 minutes
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Summary
This week I'm talking about how to deal with the other woman in your ex or soon-to-be ex's life. The woman he cheated on you with, or the one he met after you...you know, the one he's introducing to your kids…?
You have a lot of feelings about this, most of which are perfectly valid, but are you acting on those feelings in the right way? What are the boundaries here? What's a reasonable request for you to make about all of this?
And how exactly are you supposed to feel about this woman??
In today's episode, I'm going to share why compassion is so important — compassion for yourself, for your children, and yes, even for her.
If you're a mom, it's part of your job to expand your capacity to be with uncomfortable, painful, and conflicting feelings, especially ones you never fucking wanted to have ever at all. Learn how to process them in appropriate ways so you can show up in this new paradigm in the best and healthiest way possible for your kids.
Here are just a few of the topics I touch on in this episode:
- Why name-calling, blaming, and shaming aren't the way to go
- How to practice compassion towards the other woman
- Dealing with and appreciating the other woman in your child's life
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go. |
| 0:17.6 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of the |
| 0:23.5 | roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to |
| 0:29.1 | hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process |
| 0:35.0 | with your sanity and your heart intact. |
| 0:42.3 | Hey guys, it is solo episode time. How you doing? Thank you so much for being here. So today I want |
| 0:49.7 | to talk about how we deal with the other woman in maybe our ex's lives, our soon-to-be-exes |
| 0:59.1 | lives, and most importantly, the other women in our children's lives. Now, if you're in my |
| 1:05.2 | Facebook group, you know that I have a van. If you're not, you need to get in there. |
| 1:10.9 | If you're in there, you know that I have a very strong stance. |
| 1:14.3 | If you know me at all, you know that I have a strong stance about how we treat the other woman. |
| 1:20.9 | So if your husband has cheated on you, if your husband has not cheated on you, but has |
| 1:27.4 | entered into a new relationship, |
| 1:28.6 | maybe before you're divorced, or even if you're divorced, right? We can have a lot of feelings |
| 1:34.1 | about this. It can be really, really painful. And what we like to do as humans, right, is to take our pain and turn it outwards. |
| 1:46.7 | And that often leads to blame and shame and sometimes name-calling and sometimes behaviors that |
| 1:55.6 | ultimately in the end we're not all that proud of. |
| 1:58.8 | It is a lot harder to process your pain and anger |
| 2:05.0 | and own your own pain and anger as yours, right, and not blame it on somebody else. |
| 2:14.6 | That's a lot harder work to do, but that is the work that makes this entire |
| 2:21.7 | process worthwhile. Because if we don't do that work, we haven't grown. We haven't learned. |
| 2:30.3 | I mean, this is, this is baptism by fire, right? This is literally the place where you may have been thrown |
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