Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self betterment into a shot class because let's face it who's got that much time

these days. I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose.

If you're looking for more of a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place.

We all have that one love, that one relationship that we compare all others to, right?

And usually that relationship happened it's, it's, maybe it's, maybe it's high school, maybe it's college,

or maybe when you're in your 20s but it's usually when we were younger and the reason

is because it was a new experience because it was a fresh imprint.

Now here's the thing. A lot of people mistake,

and this is also including myself,

we think that because something was powerful or something was

just you know gave you a lot of dopamine, that stickiness of love, right? That

feeling of two people being inside a blanket or maybe more accurately a sleeping bag because a lot of it is wrapped with

co-dependency when we're younger.

This idea of losing yourself and two people turning into one, right?

That process can be extremely powerful and this happens to all of us.

It happens in high school. it happens when we're in

our 20s it happens when we don't know a lot about what healthy looks like it

happens when we are just going by what we feel and a lot of times what we

feel is the magnetic pull from our dysfunction. So what I mean by that is you know you take two

people and everyone has a story and you take two people who have, I don't know, different but same stories.

Like you take someone who was raised with, say, an Iron Fist dad and she lost something, her voice voice something was taken from her and then you

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