Episode 53 - Should I Stay or Should I Go?

This Jungian Life Podcast

Joseph Lee, Deborah Stewart, Lisa Marchiano

Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.7 • 2.1K Ratings

🗓️ 4 April 2019

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Summary

One of the issues clients bring into the therapeutic consulting room is dissatisfaction with the state of their marriage or partnership. Although this dilemma often takes shape as bipolar, it represents a challenge to engagement with deep, defended parts of self and relationship. Joseph, Lisa and Deb make it clear they are not focusing on issues like abuse or addiction, but the more subtle yet substantial ways in which people can feel dissatisfied. Partners often hold deep aspects of the other’s shadow; for example, if one person has a fear of abandonment the other may have an equally strong fear of engulfment. They discuss stages of marriage / partnership, from romantic to parenting to empty nest, and the ongoing need for evolving relational awareness, especially in discerning the difference between individual complexes and relational problems.

The Dream:

I feel chunks missing from my molars on the bottom left, and spit it out into my hand, It’s three pieces of different teeth plus one full tooth. I look in the mirror and there is no tooth missing but the broken pieces match up. My mouth is like Gollum’s and my teeth in front are shifted right and are thin and pointed like vampire teeth.

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to this Jungian life.
0:03.0	Three good friends and Jungian analysts, Lisa Marciano, Deborah Stewart and Joseph Lee,
0:09.0	invite you to join them for an intimate and honest conversation that brings a psychological perspective to important issues of the day.
0:17.0	I'm Lisa Marciano and I'm a youngian analyst in Philadelphia.
0:22.0	I'm Joseph Lee and I'm a youngian analyst in Philadelphia. I'm Joseph Lee and I'm a Jungian analyst in Virginia Beach, Virginia.
0:27.0	I'm Deborah Stewart, a Jungian analyst on Cape Cod.
0:31.0	Hey, this Jungian Life listeners, this is Joseph Lee.
0:35.0	I'm just going to take a second to ask you to do us a favor.
0:38.0	Stop by iTunes, subscribe, and leave us a review.
0:42.0	We're at a place in the development of our podcast where that would be
0:46.4	tremendously helpful and we'd appreciate your help.
0:49.6	So today's episode is something that it certainly comes up a lot in my practice.
0:56.0	Comes up for people, you know, a lot of friends that have gone through this.
1:00.3	It's a very common experience to be in a relationship and to be wondering whether you should stay in the relationship or is it time to leave?
1:11.0	It really calls up this larger question of how does one make a decision like this?
1:18.0	And it can be very painful to try to sit with this. So we thought we'd try to talk about it.
1:25.0	What I'm thinking about is that the title of the podcast of
1:30.0	Should I stay or should I go sort of frames it as a binary type of decision one or the other and which one will it be.
1:40.0	Whereas I think often in reality this really calls for a long or long enough exploration of what is going on in the person who's questioning the relationship and in the relationship itself
2:00.7	in order to come to a decision that has wholeness in it and that has a kind of clarity to it.
2:10.0	And to take time with that.
2:13.0	Yeah, I think what you're talking about, Deb, what I'm hearing, is the importance of the process.
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