Welcome to Just Break Up, the podcast about love, heartbreak, and all the relationship advice you don't want to hear.

My name is Sierra de Mulder.

And I'm Sam Blackwell.

And today we're going to answer a letter from somebody who doesn't want to cheat, but is really drawn to her very exciting co-worker.

Hot, hot, hat.

But before we begin, we just want to give you our Surgeon General's warning, which is that

Sierra and I are not licensed mental health practitioners.

No, and we don't condone cheating.

We're not professionals.

We're not pros in any of this.

So please take our advice as you see fit.

We're only here to offer our humble musings to hopefully shed some understanding

and maybe some laughs about the incredibly rewarding, but mostly confusing experience that is

love. All right. Today's letter is coming to us from Professional Crush, whose pronouns are

she-her, who is writing to us from Confused USA. Hi, Sam and Sierra. I love listening to you

and hearing your thoughtful and kind perspectives. I hope you might be able to give me some

advice on a situation. I'm in a happy monogamous marriage and I really love my spouse,

he, him, and our life together. My spouse and I have been married for

five years, but we've been together for 15, and I know I want to grow old with him. He's my person.

We are very compatible in many ways, and he's really kind and thoughtful, and we find strength in each

other. But I have a crush on a friend, he, him, and it's clear that my friend feels the same about me.

My friend is in the same profession, but doesn't work with me.

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