Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self betterment into a shot class because let's face it who's got that much time

these days. I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose.

If you're looking for more of a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place.

All right, here's a quick checklist of important aspects for a healthy relationship

because we all need reminders right guys a little alignment maybe or a reason to have a conversation now this doesn't mean even though I say

checklist I don't expect you I don't think you should sit there and make a checklist and

bring it to your partner and start a fight.

That's what I'm saying.

This is just something to run through in your head.

Okay, mutual respect, right?

Do I treat the other person as if she or he is a value or also do they treat you if you are a

This is huge if the person doesn't value you, or you know maybe they say they do but they don't show it in action,

that is a, it should be a non-negotiable guys.

If you don't feel valued in your relationship

That's a problem right and maybe you did before but maybe it's faded over the years I don't know but

Mutual respect and feeling value giving the person making the other person feel

valuable and vice versa compassion this is huge Do I give genuine concern for the issues that cause the other person to suffer

or to have concern or to have anxiety? Just being compassionate about the other person and

their story where they're at in their life. Even micro like their day, their

meeting, you know, whatever it is, they're a headache,

just practicing compassion, and also

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