Welcome to Just Break Up, the podcast about love, heartbreak, and all the relationship advice you don't want to hear.

My name is Sierra de Mulder.

And I'm Sam Blackwell.

And today we're going to answer a letter from somebody who is trying to hold on to the good things in her past relationship.

But before we begin, we just want to give you our Surgeon General's warning, which is that Sierra and I are not licensed mental health practitioners.

No, we are not.

We are not professionals in any way relating to relationships and advice.

So please take our advice as you see fit.

We're only here to offer our humble musing.

So hopefully shed some understanding and maybe some laughs about the incredibly rewarding, but mostly confusing experience that is

love.

All right.

Our letter today comes to us from 30-something flirty and on the way to thriving, whose

pronouns are she-her, who is writing to us from Minnesota.

Hi, Sam and Sierra, long-time listener, first-time submit submitter here.

Embarrassed to say that despite this, I should have been following your advice more closely

up until now, but if I had, I wouldn't be writing in right now. About two years ago, I met

someone new, cis male, he, him, and we clicked pretty immediately.

However, as is the case for many of us in our 30s, shit got complicated.

The fact that he was in an open marriage and working out whether to stay with his wife was hidden from me, single, from the very beginning.

By the time I found out the full story, I was bewitched by our connection

and wanted to see where things would go. And not too long after that, I fell for this person,

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