Welcome to just break up the podcast about love, heartbreak, and all the

relationship advice you don't want to hear. My name is Sierra de Mulder.

And I'm Sam Blackwell and today we're going to answer a letter from somebody who is wondering if opening the door to an X is a good thing.

But before we begin, we just want to give you our Surgeon General's warning, which is that Sierra and I are not licensed mental health practitioners?

No, we are not trained in any of this.

So please take our advice as you see fit.

We're only here to offer our humble musings to hopefully

shed some understanding and maybe some laughs about the incredibly rewarding but

mostly confusing experience which is love. I also have to quickly

apologize for Monday's episode this week in which I drank my first

cup of coffee in like four weeks.

And maybe that's what was going on.

Sam's like, oh, that's why you were off the rails.

Got it, got it, let's make sense.

Very good.

All right, let's continue that trend as I take another swing of this cup of coffee.

Let's do it.

So this letter comes from moving forward, but allowing myself to glance back, whose

pronouns are, he, him, who is writing from a series of wild events.

Hi Sam and Sierra I've been trying to write you for the last three or four months about my love life

how I've been healing from it and some possible bumps that I was thinking of

introducing. I'm writing to you now because that bump hit and I am trying to remain

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