Welcome to just break up the podcast about love, heartbreak, and all the relationship

advice you don't want to hear.

My name is Sierra de Mulder.

And I'm Sam Blackwell.

And today we're going to answer a letter from somebody whose curiosity about her partner isn't being reciprocated.

But before we begin we just want to give you our certain generals warning which is that Sierra and I are not licensed

mental health practitioners. No we are not we are not professionals we are not

trained in any of this. Some of us are incredibly sleep deprived in this very

moment so not to name names.

Oh no.

So please take our advice as you see fit.

We're only here to offer our humble museums to hopefully

shed some understanding and maybe some laughs

about the incredibly rewarding but mostly confusing

experience that is love.

Cool. Let's get into the check-in topic because it is Monday and we do this on the first episode of every week.

This check-in topic was inspired by a New York Times article that I stumbled upon called Can a Sexless Marriage

Be a Happy One by Amanda Montai? I was really intrigued by this article because you know I think we've been having

lots of conversations about the ways in which like sex shows up in people's lives and also the the ways that like

disparate sexual desire kind of shows up in how in like predictable patterns

around how people feel about it and also just like this stigma that we have that like a

sexless relationship is somehow like sad or like awful.

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