Welcome to just break up the podcast about love, heartbreak, and all the

relationship advice you don't want to hear. My name is Sierra de Mulder.

And I'm Sam Blackwell and today we're gonna answer a letter from somebody who wants to know why she's fantasizing

about someone who isn't her husband.

But before we begin, we just want to give you our Surgeon General's

warning, which is that Sierra and I are not.

We're just all messy.

Like there's no human experience that isn't messy.

And the fact that we expect ourselves to be not messy, I know.

It's just setting us up for failure it really is.

But before we begin we just want to give you our Surgeon General's

warning which is that Sierra and I are not licensed mental health practitioners.

We are not, we're not even close.

We are two little kids playing Pretend Doctor.

That's what it feels like. My daughter, turned too and she got a doctor kit and man that kid that kid thinks that she went to medical school. She's like putting those tools all up into every crevice in my body and being like,

we're going to be okay mommy you're going to be okay give you sticker.

So that's us, that's Sam and I.

That's really cute.

We're just pretending to know what we're talking about.

So please take our advice as you see fit on the show.

We are only here to offer our humble musings not any professional advice so please

take our humble musings as you see fit we're only here to wait a minute it's like

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