Would I rather Xander could read mine mine perfectly at all times?

Or would I rather know that I have a partner who is responsive to my requests and desires?

Hello and welcome to the Pillotox podcast.

We're your host, Vanessa.

And Xander Marin.

I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.

And I'm just a regular dude.

We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for

improving yours.

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practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind

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It's the sex education you wish you'd had.

Today's episode was inspired by a DM that we got on Instagram from a woman.

And she wrote, I want my husband to buy me flowers, but he never does it on his own.

I don't want to have to ask him to bring me flowers because then it doesn't count.

Does it? Doesn't count?

That's the question that we are going to be answering today.

If you have to ask for something, does it count or does it not count?

All of us, regardless of whatever you think the answer is to that question,

I think we all have this secret or not-so-secret desire for our partners to just know what we want

and need and to be able to do those things for us without us having to be asked.

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