Episode 39: If You Had To Ask, Does It Even Count?

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.8 • 2.2K Ratings

🗓️ 17 February 2022

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

You wish your partner would do something thoughtful for you, and you definitely DON’T want to have to ask them to do it — because if you did, it wouldn’t really count as something thoughtful anymore! Right?!

This episode is the remedy for this all-too-common complaint. We’re giving you steps to take toward more intentional, joyful moments for both you and your partner.

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode39

Transcript

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0:00.0	Would I rather Xander could read mine mine perfectly at all times?
0:05.0	Or would I rather know that I have a partner who is responsive to my requests and desires?
0:16.4	Hello and welcome to the Pillotox podcast.
0:19.6	We're your host, Vanessa.
0:21.1	And Xander Marin.
0:22.4	I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.
0:25.3	And I'm just a regular dude.
0:26.9	We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for
0:31.3	improving yours.
0:32.6	Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips,
0:37.2	practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind
0:42.7	closed bedroom doors and so much more.
0:45.4	It's the sex education you wish you'd had.
0:49.7	Today's episode was inspired by a DM that we got on Instagram from a woman.
0:54.8	And she wrote, I want my husband to buy me flowers, but he never does it on his own.
1:00.1	I don't want to have to ask him to bring me flowers because then it doesn't count.
1:05.1	Does it? Doesn't count?
1:06.8	That's the question that we are going to be answering today.
1:09.5	If you have to ask for something, does it count or does it not count?
1:16.4	All of us, regardless of whatever you think the answer is to that question,
1:20.1	I think we all have this secret or not-so-secret desire for our partners to just know what we want
1:27.7	and need and to be able to do those things for us without us having to be asked.
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