But here's the thing, right? Wanting respect is not expecting too much. Wanting emotional safety is not expecting too much. Wanting consistency is not expecting too much. That is the fucking baseline, y'all. The baseline. So if there's anything that I want you to take away from this, it's that, first of all, you don't have to rush to find this.

It's not about leave and immediately find your next relationship at all. That is not the point.

The point is knowing what exists, what's possible, so that when you're making decisions

about your life, you are not calibrating your expectations based on dysfunction.

You're calibrating them based on what is actually possible. Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have

open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question

of all, should you stay or should you go? I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm

here to help you navigate some of the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your

toughest questions. I've been to hell and back.

And now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process with your

sanity and your heart intact. Hey everyone. Welcome back. So this episode is a little different because this weekend,

I'm getting married. And before you're like, okay, what podcast am I listening to? I know.

It's a divorce podcast. But if you've been here for a while, you know that this isn't

just about leaving. It's about what comes after. It's about what's possible. And this is part of it,

apparently. I have been thinking a lot about whether I wanted to record this episode,

not because it's a secret. You all, if you've been listening, you know I got engaged, you know about Ethan. But I'm also very aware of who's listening, right? And so many of you are in the middle of heartbreak, confusion, fear, grief. And I never want to feel like I'm holding something up that feels inaccessible or whatever, right? It's important

to me to be mindful of who I'm speaking to and at what point in your lives I'm speaking to you.

But then something really beautiful started happening when I was talking to my clients because I was

telling clients like, I'm going to be gone and this is why. And they responded with so much joy. I had one client literally burst into tears.

And not just for me, but with this sense of hope, like, oh my God, this is possible. This exists.

This is real. I might be able to have this. After all of this is done,

at some point, there's hope. And that is why I want to share this with you today, because it's not

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