Episode 347 - The Dr. Cloud Show - Shorts - Beware of Your Automatic Tendencies
The Boundaries.me Podcast
Greg Bowler
4.7 • 815 Ratings
🗓️ 11 May 2022
⏱️ 15 minutes
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Summary
In this highlight from the show, Dr. Cloud talks about our automatic tendencies in conflicts. Our default tendencies aren’t always so productive, fruitful or stellar. Sometimes they stem from conflicts or trauma and often do us a disservice. Dr. Cloud talks Dr. Karen Horney’s way of breaking down these tendencies into categories. Our automatic tendencies fall into one of three modes: Moving Towards, Moving Against, and Moving Away. The first step is figuring out what your default tendency is, and then making a thoughtful decision about whether that’s the appropriate way for you to respond to your situation.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey everyone, welcome back to the podcast. |
| 0:09.5 | This is Albi, the producer of the Dr. Cloud Show. |
| 0:12.0 | We've got a highlight for you today, another short that Dr. Cloud brought to us a few months back. |
| 0:17.6 | This one is about becoming aware of your automatic tendencies. |
| 0:21.7 | Sometimes our tendencies and conflicts aren't always so productive, fruitful, or stellar. |
| 0:26.3 | Sometimes these tendencies come out of our conflicts and traumas, and they often do us a |
| 0:30.1 | disservice. |
| 0:30.9 | Dr. Cloud talks about Karen Hornet's way of breaking down these tendencies. |
| 0:36.4 | Our automatic tendencies tend to fall into one of three categories, moving towards, |
| 0:40.2 | moving against, and moving away. |
| 0:41.8 | The first step is figuring out what your default tendency is, and then making a thoughtful |
| 0:46.6 | decision about whether that's the appropriate response for you in that situation. |
| 0:52.7 | And just a quick reminder, we have an upcoming workshop called Narcissism and Relationships. |
| 0:59.5 | This one's about dealing with that toxic person in your life that's narcissistic tendencies |
| 1:03.9 | are driving you crazy. |
| 1:06.5 | You're going to learn all kinds of ways to protect yourself and confront those narcissistic |
| 1:10.6 | tendencies in others. |
| 1:12.6 | It's on June 28th at 5 p.m. Pacific. |
| 1:15.5 | If you can't attend live, you can stream it afterward. |
| 1:18.0 | It's not a problem. |
| 1:18.8 | Stream it as many times as you like. |
| 1:20.1 | We'll have the recording available within 48 hours of the event. |
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