Episode 318: Not Getting Tangled Up in Our Kids Emotions / Enneagram 2's with Sherman Bucher & Heather Flener

Raising Boys & Girls

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Religion & Spirituality, Kids & Family, Christianity, Parenting

4.9 • 1.9K Ratings

🗓️ 21 October 2025

⏱️ 43 minutes

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In this week’s episode, we sit down with two of our favorite Twos—Heather Flener and Sherman Bucher—for a conversation full of warmth, laughter, and self-awareness. These two embody the best of what it means to be “The Helper,” and their stories bring the Enneagram Two to life in such relatable ways. Heather and Sherman share how their caring hearts show up in parenting, friendships, and everyday life—and how that same deep empathy can sometimes make it hard to step back and care for themselves. We loved hearing them talk about learning to set boundaries, finding rest, and practicing the kind of self-care that allows them to keep loving well without burning out. From stories about childhood moments of “helping” to reflections on parenting as a Two, this conversation is full of insight and encouragement for anyone who gives a lot to others. And in true Two fashion, they even close things out by describing their ideal meal—small, intimate gatherings where connection is rich and laughter is easy. It’s a tender, joy-filled conversation that will make you want to call the helper in your life and say thank you. Book referenced in the episode: Girls on the Edge and Boys Adrift by Leonard Sax . . . . . . ⁠Owen Learns He Has What it Takes: A Lesson in Resilience⁠ ⁠Lucy Learns to Be Brave: A Lesson in Courage⁠⁠ Sign up to receive the⁠ bi-⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠monthly newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to keep up to date with where David and Sissy are speaking, where they are taco'ing, PLUS conversation starters for you and your family to share! Connect with David, Sissy, and Melissa at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠raisingboysandgirls.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . . . . . . If you would like to partner with Raising Boys and Girls as a podcast sponsor, fill out our⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Advertise With Us⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ form. A special thank you to our sponsors: QUINCE: Go to ⁠Quince.com/rbg⁠ for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. THRIVE MARKET: Head over to ⁠ThriveMarket.com/rbg⁠ to get 30% off your first order and a FREE $60 gift. NIV APPLICATION BIBLE: Save an additional 10% on any NIV Application Bible and NIV Application Commentary Resources by visiting faithgateway.com/nivab and using promo code RBG. BOLL & BRANCH: Get 15% off plus free shipping on your first set of sheets at Bollandbranch.com/rbg⁠. Exclusions apply. KA’CHAVA: Go to Ka'Chava and use code RBG for 15% off your next order. OUR PLACE: Stop cooking with toxic cookware, and upgrade to Our Place today. Visit fromourplace.com/RBG and use code RBG for 10% off site wide. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey friends, welcome to the Raising Boys and Girls podcast.
0:12.4	I'm Sissy Goff.
0:13.5	And I'm David Thomas, and we're so glad you've joined us for this conversation.
0:18.3	Let's dive in.
0:25.6	Thank you. for this conversation. Let's dive in. We'd like this.
0:26.6	It'd be a four-hour interview.
0:28.3	Just sit with these two forever and ever.
0:30.5	Which is a great intro, unofficially, to the world of twos.
0:34.7	You just are delightful.
0:37.0	Is that the truth?
0:38.5	Delightful.
0:39.1	I like two so much, I married one.
0:41.8	I was driving in this morning thinking, you know what, it's like being with the two of you for an hour.
0:49.8	It's like just being hugged for an hour.
0:52.1	Oh, that's so true.
0:54.6	And then you know what my next thought was? Being with aged for an hour. Like just like the best hug. And then you know what my next thought was?
0:57.0	Being with a one for an hour is like having your teeth cleaned at the dentist.
1:02.0	Like we all know it's a good thing to do.
1:05.3	No one really wants to.
1:07.7	That is not true.
1:09.0	That is not true.
1:10.2	Yes.
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