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I did. First new person in a while? Well, aside from like out of towners, I guess. Local person.

Yeah. First local person in a while. Yeah. Yes. Single gal. Which you said you weren't going to do again. Well, I'm not going to do it the same way. Yeah. I think that's the the differentiation there is. And that's why I told you don't discount all single women. You just need to have a better game plan. Right. Yeah. The yes. My approach needs to be different, right? I mean, that's just what it is. I'm not going to, you know, for any number of reasons, which we're not going to go into for, you know, to protect our friends. Long-term play. It's a, it's a delicate dance. Well, so I saw a friend of ours yesterday. She, she and I hung out while you were on

your date. Who I love, by the way, listen, I love everything about her. She's crazy in the best

possible way. She's so much fun. I just love everything about her. But she said even she doesn't

think she could have a long-term play partner at this point because there would be

the potentiality for feelings to creep in, or at least there would be the concern there and it would

make things less fun because that concern would be there. Well, I need to back up a little bit. I think

that's the case for a lot of people. People who are predisposed to getting into relationships

and forming those feelings. For me, the problem really comes in where... It's the other person. Yeah. Because you're really good at compartmentalizing things. Yeah, I shut that off very easily. Right. Not that I don't care about the people. That's not the case at all. Right. But if someone were to say to me, hey, if we we start playing what if it turns into a relationship or it doesn't like eh whatever you know

you fuck whatever I don't care so that's a problem for people yeah right because then it

doesn't give them any like they don't know where I stand right and then when if they start

starting to get feelings if you know in a situation and I don't reciproc that. It's not that I don't care about you, but I'm not in that place. Like, I haven't put myself in that place. And it's easy for me to act or seem to be just dismissive of it. Well, I want to also make something clear because when I started seeing Yusuf, people were reaching out being like, so when's Brian going to find his girlfriend or his boyfriend or whatever? And I was like, oh, he's really not interested in that. First of all, by the way, I'm too old to have a girlfriend or a boyfriend. Well, you know what I'm saying? A second partner. So people assume that it's me being like, oh, Brian can't do that for whatever reason. Like I'm I'm dictating how you interact with other people romantically.

Not the case.

That is so not the case. I would support whatever made you happy. You just have decided that that is not within your wheelhouse, given everything we have going on in our lives right now. I don't have the ability. I don't have the bandwidth. I don't have the emotional flexibility for that. Yeah. I really don't. And that is not whether it is a male, female, non-binary person, doesn't matter. Right. I don't have the ability

to start or to develop a long-term relationship with someone else. I just don't have it. Between what you and I have in

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