Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go.

I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of

the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to

hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process

with your sanity and your heart intact.

Hey everyone. Welcome back. So today I want to talk about letting go and the process of reclaiming your power and healing throughout this process,

especially if you are recovering from abuse. The way that I want to talk about this is I've been, there's a recurring theme that always

comes up with my clients, always, always, always.

And it's sort of come up a lot in the last couple of weeks.

And so I wanted to really talk this through and break it down.

And it's about the way in which, honestly, we've been

brainwashed and that the abuser has controlled our thoughts, feelings, and on the way that we

function in the relationship and in the world

out of fear.

Right.

We, in order to be in the relationship, we have had to walk on eggshells, right?

We are managing their, we're sort of mentally managing them, right?

We're not saying certain things. We're, oh, God, the children said this. Oh, God, no, no, no, I have to run interference.

Right. We are in a constant state of trying to not piss them off. The thing that I said to a client

who was really struggling with having the divorce conversation, sort of the final divorce

conversation, after many, many, many divorce conversations. And I said, you know, it's as if you've

spent your entire relationship walking through a minefield.

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