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Welcome to Just Break Up, the podcast about love, heartbreak, and all the relationship

advice you don't want to hear.

My name is Sierra de Mulder.

And I'm Sam Blackwell, and today we're going to answer a letter from somebody who is trying to figure out their relationship logistics.

But before we begin, we just want to give you our Surgeon General's warning, which is that Sierra and I are not licensed mental health

practitioners. Correct we are not professionals we are not trained in any of this or

accredited in any way to give you advice we are just two people with microphones so please take our

advice as you see fit and seek professional support from people who know what

they're talking about. We are just here to offer our humble musings to hopefully shed some understanding and maybe some laughs about the incredibly rewarding but mostly confusing experience that is love.

All right Sam, today is Monday, Juneteenth.

So we are going to have a check-in topic,

and that check-in topic is inspired by something I learned

from our friend, Casey Tanner, over at Queer Sex Therapy, which is a great

Instagram account, resource.

We had them on our show, interviewed them a year ago, plus they're amazing and their

Instagram is great. And recently Casey shared something where they were talking

about rules of engagement to utilize when you were in a healthy relationship

about around conflict and the rules come from someone named

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