Episode 281: Understanding What's Legal vs. What's Fair (The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset)
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 574 Ratings
🗓️ 23 July 2024
⏱️ 16 minutes
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Summary
Have you ever wondered how to navigate the tricky balance between what's legal and what's fair in a divorce? I dive into Step Six of the 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset, focusing on distinguishing between these crucial aspects.
You'll hear advice on processing emotions through appropriate channels, documenting evidence of legal matters, and working with a coach or other professional to streamline what's pertinent for court.
My goal is to help you approach your legal team with clear, legally significant information, thereby reducing costs and improving outcomes.
You'll hear:
- The key to understanding legal vs. fair in divorce
- "If you're focusing on what's fair, you're going to get all of your personal feelings in the way."
- The importance of emotional processing, legal strategy, and documenting abuse for legal proceedings
- How to adopt a legally strategic mindset
Resources & Links:
7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle
Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go. |
| 0:17.8 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of |
| 0:23.3 | the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to |
| 0:29.1 | hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process |
| 0:35.1 | with your sanity and your heart intact. |
| 0:45.6 | Hey everyone. |
| 0:47.4 | Welcome back. |
| 0:49.3 | What a difference a weekend makes. |
| 0:52.5 | I am recording this on Monday morning, July 22nd, and this weekend was |
| 0:58.9 | an absolute roller coaster. And here we are. It's a brand new day. If you don't know what I'm |
| 1:05.9 | talking about, I don't know what to tell you. You might be listening to this at a later date. So I am talking about the fact that Joe Biden just stepped down and Kamala stepped up. So that's where we are right now. And oh my God, I'm exhausted. But boy, was it nice to wake up? Not feeling like doom, this impending sense of doom. A little invigoration. I hope that this, |
| 1:32.2 | if you're listening to this at a later date, I really hope it ages well. But we shall see. |
| 1:38.3 | Today we are talking about our sixth step in my seven-step divorce mindset reset, which is about |
| 1:52.0 | understanding what's legal versus what's fair. So this is really, really important, really important. And again, everything that |
| 2:04.8 | we've talked about up until this point can help set the stage for this. I'm talking from, |
| 2:14.4 | you know, radical acceptance. Everything that we have done up until this point and talked |
| 2:22.0 | about up until this point, having a strategy mindset really leads into really wrapping your |
| 2:31.4 | brain around what's legal versus what's fair. I'll tell you what, |
| 2:37.4 | family court is anything but fair. So, you know, you might be in a position where your spouse |
| 2:46.2 | was a chronic under-earner and you were the high-income earner and the essential, you know, |
| 2:55.9 | the full-time breadwinner for your family and he cheated on you. |
| 3:02.4 | And now you have to pay him child support or spousal support. |
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