Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go.

I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of

the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to

hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process

with your sanity and your heart intact.

Hey everyone. Welcome back. So today we're going to be talking about creating a vision statement

for your divorce. Now, this is something that I did at the very

beginning of my mediation with my ex-husband. And a lot of mediators use this tool at the beginning of

the process. They essentially ask you to set your intention.

They ask you to create some form of statement that you can circle back to, that you can

hold as the core tenet of your process,

and that you can sort of commit to with integrity,

that you're all of,

whenever you have a disagreement or something difficult comes up,

you will shift into,

okay, what is in line with the vision that we created. So for example, when I got divorced,

we created a vision statement that essentially said that whatever we did and however

hard it was, that we would put our egos aside and look at things through the lens of

what was best for our son.

And I think you've heard me talk about this before.

But what we, but we really took it seriously. And I've told the story before about how, and it sounds so trite. Like,

yeah, duh, of course. But also so much of divorce ends up being an ego battle right it's what

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