Episode 254: Conversations About Shit That Matters With Unqualified People: Andrea and Kate on Rape Culture

Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

Andrea Owen

How To, Education, Self-improvement

4.7 • 517 Ratings

🗓️ 7 November 2018

⏱️ 77 minutes

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This week my dear friend Kate Anthony is back on the podcast. If you are new to the show, I’ve started a new series where I’ve been talking with close friends about shit that matters. During these candid conversations, we take a big topic where we are not experts and unpack our own stuff around it and begin to make sense of it all. In this episode, Kate and I continue our conversation on rape culture and sexual assault. I highly encourage you to listen to part one of our conversation, if you haven’t done so already. The reason I wanted to create two episodes on this topic is to shed light on stories of non-consensual sex, rape, and assault. If you feel your story is not important enough, something I believed of my own story for a long time, know that your story is important. All of our stories are important and everybody’s story matters. That’s my why. And, trigger warning: Kate and I share our own experiences with non-consensual sex in this episode. In this episode you’ll also hear: The moment Kate realized her sexual assault was rape (10 minutes and 1 second) Saying yes out of fear and coerced consent (19:03) I retell the story of when, at 17, my boyfriend videotaped us without my knowledge and I lost my shit (24:28) And then, I share my own story of date rape (27:53) The untrue stories we make up about the kind of men that assault women, like, “Only scary looking men or strangers in an alley assault women.” (45:50) Kate shares a story about a man asking for consent (46:31) 💥🎉FREE LIVE TRAINING! 💥🎉 Okay, y’all-- there are two topics I’ve seen come up over the last few months during my retreats and programs. One is trusting women-- why do we have such a hard time with this and how do we overcome it? The other is the concept of feeling “good enough”. Do we just decide this and wait for it? Is it a mindset issue? Or something else? Join me on Friday, November 9th at 12:30 eastern time where I’ll break down these two topics and give you some tangible steps to take to make this happen in your life. As you know from my book HTSFLS, both of these topics are IMPERATIVE for you to stop feeling like shit and start living your kick-ass life. See you there! (And yes, a replay will be available) No need to sign up for anything, just mark your calendar, and put THIS LINK in there. Then, on 11/9 at 12:30 eastern, click the link and join us! 😘😘😘 http://yourkickasslife.com/254 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:30.1	This is your kickass life podcast episode number 254.
0:34.7	This is the Your Kickass Life podcast with Andrea Owen.
0:39.3	A no BS guide to self-help and bad assery.
0:43.1	Because ladies, let's face it, life's too short for it to not kick ass.
0:49.3	And here's your host, the girl who serves it up straight with a side of crazy.
0:55.2	Andrea Owen.
1:02.6	Hey there, Ask Kickers. Welcome to another episode of the podcast. As always, I am so glad that you are here.
1:07.6	I'm especially glad this week. Maybe this is your very first time listening to the podcast. If it is, you might want to jump over to last week's episode,
1:12.5	episode number 253, because this is part two of that same episode. I have started a series
1:21.7	called Conversations about shit that matters with unqualified people, where I'm having
1:26.4	conversations with my actual friends where we
1:29.7	take a topic, a big topic, hence talking about shit that matters. And we are not experts on this.
1:37.4	We are women who are unpacking our own stuff around it, who are trying to make sense of it.
1:43.9	We're trying to heal around it, who are trying to make sense of it, we're trying to
1:45.4	heal around it. And it's something I wanted to start because I still have stuff that I'm
1:51.6	unpacking. And I think it's helpful to listeners to listen to these conversations and maybe do
1:56.6	some unpacking and learning and healing themselves. At least that's my hope. Last week was a conversation,
2:03.1	a long conversation. Thank you all for sticking with me. It was, I'm almost positive,
2:08.7	the longest in the history of your Kickass Life podcast, 260-something episodes we have now. It was the
2:15.2	longest episode. I didn't anticipate that. I knew we had a lot to
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