Welcome back to Feeding the Mouth to Bight You, a weekly podcast guide on parenting teens and launching them into the world.

I'm Cynthia Yanov, and as always, I'm joined by psychologist and author Dr. Ken Wilgus.

Dr. Ken, as we're taping it, it's the final countdown. Do you know what I'm referencing? Is there a liftoff, a launch? What? What? Is there something? Final countdown before school is out for the summer. Oh, oh yes. Oh, yes. Yeah. See, that shows how old I am.

I know it, but I kind of now even lose track a little bit. You're not living by the school calendar like.

Which, by the way, is so great because I lived, you know, I was ADD, didn't know it.

I lived in dread of school and I longed for summer so much and now it's like it all kind of

evens out so I consider that improvement you'd be surprised how many years I had you ever had

that dream where you're like that class you went to the first day and then you completely forgot

and now it's the final and you're supposed to graduate and you've never been to the class totally and I mean that's what we should be asking you why do we all have that dream that even what we're that's not even what we're talking out today but since you brought up tell us why do we have that dream I have it all the time or that I have to go back to Baylor where I went to college that I'm going to have to go back and finish a class. I'm like, well, I don't know how

I'm going to do this. I have three kids. But I guess they're on the phone. They say you never actually graduate. Yeah, got to go. Well, that's not today's topic. But I will say, I generally ask patients if they tell me a dream, my first question is, what did you feel in the dream?

So, because often what you think the emotional, dreams are big, you know, sharks and

jumping off of cliffs and whatever, but what you were actually feeling in the dream doesn't

always fit what you think.

So I always think of a dream as a little brief story that flashes through your brain,

through your mind, that is triggered by a very specific emotion of some kind.

And I often feel like I've missed something, forgotten something,

unprepared for something, all that kind of

stuff. So yeah, yeah. Well, it's funny because that is kind of a universal dream. So I like that.

Okay. So we're going to talk about communicating today, communicating with our teens. And this weekend,

this is more related to my youngest, but my youngest had another friend over and I kept saying like, let's go get in a car or let's go do this.

And the other, the friend immediately did it.

Mine did not.

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