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Bare Marriage

Episode 246: How Toxic Marriage Advice Mirrors Coercive Control

Bare Marriage

Sheila Gregoire

Marriage, Social Sciences, Science, Relationships, Sex, Christianity, Wife, Religion & Spirituality, Mother, Society & Culture, Advice, Family

4.61.1K Ratings

🗓️ 15 August 2024

⏱️ 70 minutes

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Summary

What if you discovered that marriage books like The Excellent Wife actually follows Steve Hassan's BITE model of cult indoctrination? And what if these marriage books were giving advice that mirrored coercive control?Bare Marriage podcast, episode 246, featuring Bethany Jantzi. Bethany did her thesis on coercive control, and today she shows us how these books use methods like: diminishing/devaluing personhood; undermining autonomy; creating psychological dependency; using a fear-based system ...

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Bear Marriage Podcast. I'm Sheila Ray Gregoire from Bear Marriage.com where we like to talk

0:17.1

about healthy evidence-based biblical advice for your sex life and your marriage. And this is the second episode in a row about the book The Excellent Wife.

0:25.3

Last week, Tia Leavings and Marissa Bert joined me to look at Martha Peace's book,

0:31.3

which is one of the worst I can say books I've ever read and is just

0:37.8

so heavily into male hierarchy and complementarianism and honestly does much harm.

0:44.5

So if you didn't listen to that episode, please do.

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So that you can get a background of what we're talking about today.

0:50.9

Because I'm going to bring on someone who's an expert

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incourusive control to take another look at some of the elements in Martha's

0:57.4

book but also some of the bigger elements in our church circles.

1:01.1

Before I do that though, I want to say thank you to some important people. in our

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sponsor, sponsor to our sponsor, which is the Kingdom Girls Bible.

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Such an amazing Bible, which highlights

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all the stories of the amazing women in scripture

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including some you probably haven't heard of. So if you want to get away from a

1:18.7

male hierarchy faith and you want your daughters to feel really empowered and included in Christianity.

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Please take a look at the Kingdom Girls Bible is just incredible.

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And I want to say thank you to our patrons who help us do what we do by giving us money every month and that money

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