What does it mean to deconstruct your face? Hi, I'm Sheila Ray Gregoer from Bear Marriage.com,

where we like to talk about healthy evidence-based

biblical advice for your sex life and your marriage.

And today, and actually for the next two weeks, we have some amazing interviews coming up with three different people who have deconstructed their faith.

Now, deconstruction has gotten a lot of bad press in evangelicalism lately.

Matt Chandler accused people of deconstructing just because it's sexy,

as if deconstructing is something really cool to do.

Lots of people say those who deconstruct are doing so

because they want to sin. And actually that's not what's going on and it is so

vitally, vitally important that we listen to the voices that are coming out of the

deconstructions spaces and that's why I want to dedicate the next three weeks to

some interviews on that. What deconstruction means is simply that you're examining all the things that you were taught about God and about faith,

and you're dismantling them one by one until you get down to the foundation of what you think is true.

So you're taking out the stuff that's extraneous, basically the toxic teachings that we talk about here on bare marriage all the time,

until you get back to what's true. The problem is so many people

grew up with such horrendously toxic teachings and with people around them who had bought the toxic teachings

and that they experienced such tremendous betrayal and hurt that they couldn't

continue in the faith. And so we're going to hear stories today from Sarah

McCannon, the author of ex- evangelical's, and next week from Kate West, the

author of Rift, of people who have really deconstructed deconstructed because they really believed and they were hurt.

And they're still in their journeys.

They're not sure where they're going to end up, and I'm finding it very interesting to watch

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